[misladyrae]

First off I want to say I am new here, so I don't understand alot.. but I do know this is where I can go for support.. so, ok... Here goes. I recently got an apartment after being chronically homeless. I had 1 apartment 3 years ago, had to have my older kids live with Dad for a bit blah blah. Anyways so now I am in this new place my kids are home, I have had a couple more. I only found out 4 weeks ago after 1 year of therapy that i may be borderline, now I am waiting for new Dr to diagnose, and looking at my life and how I have been I think I do.. but here's my problem, and why I am here crying to you..... I would normally have been flipping out by now. Crying and all upset because my property manager here slept with my boyfriend 2 summers ago while we were broke up.. I don't think she knows that I know because I was gone for 5 months. But now she calls me all the time and always wants me to resign paperwork. She even gave me a lease violation for having a bag of recycling cans out back... She just called me again and asked me to come up with my newborns social security card or all my help will be revoked . Ugh. It's so annoying.. I ask my boyfriend what it's like for then to see eachother.. is there animosity, you guys friends, is it awkward? I want some transparency and all he gives me is, no we aren't friends, and he walks away.. so now I want to fight with my boyfriend, I want to call housing and blow up her spot...... I really just want to be able to think straight, and not fly off the handle.. I want to believe people..ugh I want to disappear.

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by misladyrae

I would normally have been flipping out by now. Crying and all upset because my property manager here slept with my boyfriend 2 summers ago while we were broke up.. I don't think she knows that I know because I was gone for 5 months.

You will have to let that go. Even if you feel like she may hold it against you you need to let it go. If you were broken up it could have been anyone. Although I admit doing it with your property manager seems to muck up the waters.

But now she calls me all the time and always wants me to resign paperwork.

What paperwork? What is it that you have to resign? I hope its not a lease agreement because you signed one and if she doesnt like it she cant force you to sign another. She would have to take you to court. Do not sign another thing.

She even gave me a lease violation for having a bag of recycling cans out back... She just called me again and asked me to come up with my newborns social security card or all my help will be revoked .

Woa, woa....Is this help from the state or government? If it is she has NO business asking you for anything. Her dealings should be between the state or your case worker and herself. If you pay a portion of your rent then the only dealings would be to give her rent. If you have certain violations written into your lease and you violate them..as long as the reprecussions are listed then fine- lease violation. But if she is just saying you violated the lease anytime she wants to or cites some sketchy made up rule- do not sign anything or pay anything. She can go to court for that too. SHE is not entitled to your daughters ss card unless SHE works DIRECTLY for the agency helping you. That is private info. How do you know she wont do something with that information. Does she use encryption software? Ask her.

Ugh. It's so annoying.. I ask my boyfriend what it's like for then to see eachother.. is there animosity, you guys friends, is it awkward? I want some transparency and all he gives me is, no we aren't friends, and he walks away.

You will have to take him at his word or move on. If he is halfway decent then I am sure its awkward. You cant demand he give you anything unless you want to pick a fight about it. I would let sleeping dogs lie and deal with the present.

[Bill3]

Well done coming here rather than flying off the handle or attacking the property office!



How did you do it?

[tmg4me]

Good advice from Sarahsweets. And you made the right decision to come to this forum like Bill3 said.