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Default Mar 24, 2019 at 01:11 AM
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Found this article helpful. Really describes what I go through trying to survive my own brain.

Do those with BPD mean to Hurt Others? | mysite
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Default Mar 24, 2019 at 07:36 AM
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Thank you for the read Do those with BPD mean to Hurt Others? I did think I was alone but reading that and seeing it use words I would use to describe myself eases some guilt.
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Default Mar 25, 2019 at 08:05 AM
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But what can you do when you loved one are not aware they are sick and they do not want to go and ask for help. I am seeing here coments of people that struggles with BPD but they are aware of this and of the fact they suffer and they are not mean..... The syntoms of my loved one are horrible and I am aware how much he may suffer after ..... but he doesn't want to accept he is not mean and evil as he says and he doesn't want to search for help....
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Default Mar 25, 2019 at 08:14 PM
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Default Mar 26, 2019 at 09:37 AM
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Its just the opposite I think. The hardest part is knowing you are thinkng irrationally and lashing out, but you cant stop yourself. Then when you calm down the guilt and regret sets in. You look back at the way you behaved and are humiliated with embarrasement. It takes years of hard work to be able to control this destructive thought cycle.
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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 01:34 AM
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But this is if you try to work with it and ask for help. What if you are in this circle but you never want to get out as bad as it gets (((
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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 01:50 AM
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But this is if you try to work with it and ask for help. What if you are in this circle but you never want to get out as bad as it gets (((
You're still not doing it on purpose, but things aren't likely to get better until/unless you ask for help - at least in my experience.

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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 11:39 AM
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we dont mean to hurt others...at least i dont. its a viscious cycle...ive gone through dbt and cbt and therapy and i write and talk to myself and try to prepare myself for THAT MOMENT when i just turn into a total asshole...and way too often, none of it seems to work. or somethings just not clicking. i try so hard not to lose it and then i just do and i cant reel it back in. the guilt and the self hatred are horrible. i cant even comprehend how much ive hurt my partner...i wish i had an instruction manual on how to get through conflict because i am so, so bad at it.
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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 03:52 PM
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That was a nice read. I’ve read some horrible things about bpd and it makes me sad. Of course we don’t mean to hurt people. We just have such extreme emotions and pain that we don’t know how to deal with it all.
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