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Does anyone feel bad about having bpd? I already feel crappy about myself and now I’m told that my own personality is a mental illness. It’s hard to even work on learning about it because I just get more depressed. It just feels like having bpd means that I am fundamentally wrong. And at my most inner self I am a ****ed up piece of ****.
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Marsha Linehan Acknowledges Her Own Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder
Dr. Marsha Linehan had BPD. She is the mother of DBT, a form of therapy that greatly helps people with BPD. Start by reading about her and watch her videos on YouTube. You can improve. She no longer suffers from BPD. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I agree with the post above.
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Cassy12 - so sorry you're reeling with your emotions over the diagnosis. I was recently diagnosed with it....and last week was my first session, in working with it. I guess I'm telling you that, as a way of explaining that I don't yet know how I feel about it. I've spent so much time dealing with what I now think of as symptoms (depression, anxiety, etc. - diagnoses in their own right) - that I haven't been able to comprehend what this "new diagnosis" even means to me. I don't really care what my past diagnoses were. I don't really care what the newer ones are now. All I care about is, how can I make my life better? Easier? I do know that generally speaking, I'm ok with myself. I don't feel bad about any particular diagnosis, because I tell myself, this is not of my own making. I did not do anything to cause "me" to be me. I am dealing with the repercussions of what others have done to me. I am trying, now, to learn new skills, to make my life better. I hope you can find your balance, and cut yourself some slack, too. "They" keep telling me it can be better. Hopefully we can both find that.
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Thank you guys so much for taking the time to reply. I guess I understand cognitively how it can be helpful to work on borderline stuff. It’s weird, I don’t blame myself for my depression, anxiety, eating disorder etc...
I’m doing a workbook with my therapist. Hopefully I can get to a place of non-judgement about the diagnosis. |
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I have done much reading to figure out if those traits were always there and would have surfaced no matter what or would a ‘normal’ person be driven to borderline traits if given enough trauma. So many diagnoses overlap and get confused with each other, IMHO. C-PTSD, BPD, BD, ADHD, OCD, Depression, Anxiety The workbook you are doing may be DBT. I hope it helps. To me, the diagnosis doesn’t matter, either. It’s the treatment that makes the difference, learning how to live a good life. I’m out here on my own and doing alright. I finally got an anxiety med, not an anti depressant, that helps greatly. This med was not something ever to have been said to help with BPD. So whatever I have, this med helps, yay for me! __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Although I think it sucks that I have had to deal with this as long as I can remember, it was a relief to know it wasn't just that I was crazy... For years I thought I was doomed and hiding something that no one else was dealing with. It is good to know I am not unique, and there are lots of people dealing with the same disorder. Meds have helped some, and I just started with a new therapist. I am hopeful that he will be better than my last therapist. Hugs.
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I don't like the label of BPD, but it's the easy I've been my whole life. I don't know how to be otherwise, and even though it hurts at times, it's who I am and I've learned to accept it. That doesn't mean I don't try to get better or change, but I've learned to accept me as me. It's all I can do. Self hate doesn't make things better. Learning to accept yourself does, to a degree.
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