Do you feel bad for having bpd?

Does anyone feel bad about having bpd? I already feel crappy about myself and now I’m told that my own personality is a mental illness. It’s hard to even work on learning about it because I just get more depressed. It just feels like having bpd means that I am fundamentally wrong. And at my most inner self I am a ****ed up piece of ****.

Marsha Linehan Acknowledges Her Own Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder

Dr. Marsha Linehan had BPD. She is the mother of DBT, a form of therapy that greatly helps people with BPD. Start by reading about her and watch her videos on YouTube.

You can improve. She no longer suffers from BPD.

I agree with the post above.

Cassy12 - so sorry you're reeling with your emotions over the diagnosis. I was recently diagnosed with it....and last week was my first session, in working with it. I guess I'm telling you that, as a way of explaining that I don't yet know how I feel about it. I've spent so much time dealing with what I now think of as symptoms (depression, anxiety, etc. - diagnoses in their own right) - that I haven't been able to comprehend what this "new diagnosis" even means to me. I don't really care what my past diagnoses were. I don't really care what the newer ones are now. All I care about is, how can I make my life better? Easier? I do know that generally speaking, I'm ok with myself. I don't feel bad about any particular diagnosis, because I tell myself, this is not of my own making. I did not do anything to cause "me" to be me. I am dealing with the repercussions of what others have done to me. I am trying, now, to learn new skills, to make my life better. I hope you can find your balance, and cut yourself some slack, too. "They" keep telling me it can be better. Hopefully we can both find that.

Thank you guys so much for taking the time to reply. I guess I understand cognitively how it can be helpful to work on borderline stuff. It’s weird, I don’t blame myself for my depression, anxiety, eating disorder etc...
I’m doing a workbook with my therapist. Hopefully I can get to a place of non-judgement about the diagnosis.

^The causes that led me to exhibit borderline traits were the repercussions of what others have done to me, too. Out of sheer frustration and turning anger inward, rather than outward, I acted in a way that showed traits.

I have done much reading to figure out if those traits were always there and would have surfaced no matter what or would a ‘normal’ person be driven to borderline traits if given enough trauma.

So many diagnoses overlap and get confused with each other, IMHO. C-PTSD, BPD, BD, ADHD, OCD, Depression, Anxiety

The workbook you are doing may be DBT. I hope it helps. To me, the diagnosis doesn’t matter, either. It’s the treatment that makes the difference, learning how to live a good life. I’m out here on my own and doing alright. I finally got an anxiety med, not an anti depressant, that helps greatly. This med was not something ever to have been said to help with BPD. So whatever I have, this med helps, yay for me!

Although I think it sucks that I have had to deal with this as long as I can remember, it was a relief to know it wasn't just that I was crazy... For years I thought I was doomed and hiding something that no one else was dealing with. It is good to know I am not unique, and there are lots of people dealing with the same disorder. Meds have helped some, and I just started with a new therapist. I am hopeful that he will be better than my last therapist. Hugs.

I don't like the label of BPD, but it's the easy I've been my whole life. I don't know how to be otherwise, and even though it hurts at times, it's who I am and I've learned to accept it. That doesn't mean I don't try to get better or change, but I've learned to accept me as me. It's all I can do. Self hate doesn't make things better. Learning to accept yourself does, to a degree.