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Old 05-13-2020, 10:26 PM   #1
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Default Should I tell my friends I have BPD?

Even at PC I've been hiding my diagnoses. Today's the first day at PC my About Me page displays Borderline Personality Disorder. I have a good online friend, but she doesn't know I have BPD. Afraid to tell her because it seems everyone in life always abandons me. In fact my clinical psychologist just terminated me as a client, forever. That killed me! Now I need therapy because of my therapist. Just saying, not sure what I'd do if I lost my one and only last remaining friend.

Also just curious is anyone able to do DBT during the coronavirus lockdown? When my psychiatrist finally diagnosed me the coronavirus pandemic had started and DBT classes were placed on pause until the country reopens. Do you like DBT? Idk why but I can hardly wait to start to make me normal.
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Old 05-14-2020, 05:27 AM   #2
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I'm so sorry about your psychologist. It sounds like that hurt a lot. Was there a reason for that? Or did they move or close their practice?

That's a tough question you have. I'm going to say that it depends on the friend. I have seen it both ways. On the one hand, I have seen how such knowledge can stigmatize a person. On the other hand, from personal experience, I wish I had known that a friend was likely BPD. I certainly would have behaved differently had I know and been able to research what he was going through. I think you will have to evaluate how she will react. I think you also have to consider how much BPD affects you. I have met some people for whom it was fairly mild and they interacted well and I have met others for whom it was socially debilitating and they were unable to have deep relationships as their symptoms overwhelmed them.

I hope it works out for you and that you find the right answer for yourself.
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Old 05-14-2020, 06:57 AM   #3
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It is nobody's business.
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BPD diagnoses is new to me by my knew psychiatrist, but I already knew long ago I had it. My 1st psychiatrist couldn't hide a secret too well. There's a lot to absorb about BDP. Telling a friend about it must be a shock and overwhelming. I'm still learning about it.

So I told my only friend, email friend. She took it very well! I used to have a texting friend, but we don't talk much anymore. I have to wonder how she would have took it. I sent a PM to someone here at PC. She only replied back saying she has some problems and would reply back, but that was awhile ago.
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I'm glad your friend was supportive. In terms of DBT, you can purchase a workbook via Amazon and work through it yourself. Then, whenever you're able to speak with a therapist, you can discuss your progress.
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I would be very cautious as to who I tell my diagnoses. Much more in the case of something as BPD that has such a bad press and it’s so misunderstood even by many professionals.
In the case this person is a friend it will mean that I can trust her/him so I wouldn’t have any problem because it means I may even help her/him to understand me better. Out of that, I wouldn’t share.
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