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Confused Aug 23, 2020 at 11:46 AM
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Have been in therapy for a year now - been in DBT for 9 months. Starting to feel more like a facilitator in group, than client. Primary therapist tried getting me released from the program, on the grounds I've taken it about as far as I can, and "am doing so well". The group who over-sees such things refused...so feeling stuck until I "graduate" at the official, on the calendar, one year mark. Ok fine. DID receive permission to restart the EMDR for the PTSD, simultaneously with the DBT ("unprecedented" according to my primary therapist, who is so excited.)


So anyway....recently identified an issue I'm having, not yet discussed with therapist. I'm feeling a strong need for support. More than I'm getting from either therapy / therapists. More than I'm getting from friends, family, spouse. More than what I get from here. Or perhaps I should say, I need different support. Yes, I'm doing so much better. But still....! There are times when I am completely over-whelmed, and struggling. Times when I could really use a bit of extra support. Times when I can use my DBT skills to get me through...but I also think "doesn't have to be this hard....if only...."

So - asked hubby if he could kick it up a notch at those times. Flat refusal. He provides room and board....and thinks that is enough. I considered an affair...but I'm just not made that way. I look around at friends and family....and realize nope. What I'm looking for, not gonna get from them. Especially right now with all this covid crap, politics, mayhem and riots going on. They seem focused on other issues, and just aren't emotionally available for me right now.


So, I'm at a loss. Support animal? Companion animal? That kind of feels like what I need - but will also be a battle with the spouse, who would see it as a "pet", not a working companion. Also, not a clue how to get one, funding for, etc.

Are there "sponsors" for something like BPD? Similar to someone with substance abuse issues? Someone I could call up, turn to, in moments of weakness? Because that's kind of what it feels like I need, too. Calling the mental health support line (for DBT) definitely isn't filling that need.

Any thoughts?

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Default Aug 24, 2020 at 12:48 AM
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I think BPD sponsors sound like a great idea.!

I too struggle with finding those around me for support and understanding. Having go to people who can relate or just be there when you need a cry, a laugh, uplifting words, or any emotional support.
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Default Sep 30, 2020 at 10:10 AM
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I'm sending hugs. H's reaction was not at all helpful. Grrrrrrrr.

Maybe posting more on pc could be helpful. And a support animal is a great idea (not for me though, allergies grr)

I've not heard of a sponser for BPD. Maybe there is such a thing?


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