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Trig Nov 17, 2020 at 09:24 PM
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Hi,

I figure I would post this here as well.
Well I wasn’t given the diagnosis of BPD by my last therapist. I had heard it from my psychiatrist. He told me he didn’t give me the diagnosis, and that I came in with it. I am assuming it came from the state hospital maybe, I am not sure. I don’t even know if I have BPD officially. I am scheduled for a therapist appointment on Thursday.
Anyway I live alone and have some realizations of myself. I haven’t been in a serious relationship, or long lasting one.
I have never been broken up with. I know that if I met someone, who, I really liked, connected with on an emotional and physical level, and they broke up with me.

Trigger If they broke up with me, I would most likely threaten to kill myself, to prevent them from leaving. And that is terrible to admit but it is true I would do that. And I have actually laughed out loud cause, I know I am that type of person.
Is that considered a thing of BPD? Or another type of personality disorder?
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Here are links to 3 articles, from PC's archives, that (hopefully) may offer some insight into whether or not what you know about yourself suggests you may be diagnosable as having BPD plus a link to the BPD test here on PC:

Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms

Borderline Personality Disorder: Symptoms & Treatments

6 Gifts of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Test | Psych Central

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Trig Nov 26, 2020 at 03:40 PM
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BPD can not be diagnosed via online tests. they are interesting to take tho. only a trained professional can tell you if you have this type of personality disorder and that is after months of meetings. it took them over a year to diagnose me.
i cant really say what other bpd people might act like as i have never met one that is the same as the other. but break ups for me were rough. i would turn nasty and hit out. i burst the ear drum of my sons' dad when that relationship ended. however at the end of the relationship with my daughters dad i didn't care i went out and partied. all my break ups were different. some break ups i was fine with and some my actions endangered my life. i have never threatened to kill myself to keep a relationship tho.
I hope you dont have BPD. I spent years where i shut myself away so i would not hurt anyone, yeah i know shutting myself away from everyone was hurting myself. BUT it worked I have been in the same relationship for a while now and in the last 3 years we have only had 2 major arguments, thats only because all of the emotions have turned inwards so its all focused on me, but i am not hurting others anymore and i know when this relationship ends no matter how soon or far away that date may be.. i will just but sad and hurting bad yeah but i will keep control of my actions. my point is everyday is a struggle if you do have bpd please make sure you have someone to talk to. not just a doctor but a mate that you and just be you around.
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Hi I’m 53 and although undiagnosed I have all the behaviour and features of BPD.... life has always been a struggle for me...periods of time where suicidal thoughts were constant. That being said I can and do enjoy life and I’m mindful to the blessings I have.
I would just like your advice on how to manage those intense emotions... abandonment and aloneness which I feel whoever I am in a relationship..... I become very dysregulated .... and self injure ... my partner struggles and then he retreats ( quite rightly) which makes me feel abandoned and the cycle continues... any advise would be so helpful
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Hi I’m 53 and although undiagnosed I have all the behaviour and features of BPD.... life has always been a struggle for me...periods of time where suicidal thoughts were constant. That being said I can and do enjoy life and I’m mindful to the blessings I have.
I would just like your advice on how to manage those intense emotions... abandonment and aloneness which I feel whoever I am in a relationship..... I become very dysregulated .... and self injure ... my partner struggles and then he retreats ( quite rightly) which makes me feel abandoned and the cycle continues... any advise would be so helpful
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best thing to do is speak to a professional. if we knew fully how to control our "outburst" and actively controlled them then we would not have a disorder. in the mean time look up DR Daniel fox on YouTube as he has help partner gain some understanding.

just to Stress if anyone thinks they may be borderline you need to see your doctor get a diagnoses and start treatment.
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