Welcome to the Borderline Personality Disorder

Oct 05, 2012 at 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by bobwnh

Doc,
Do most people deny they have BPD? My wife denies it. (3 therapists tell me she is)

Almost all of us on the forum have gone through a process of denial. Most of us have tried to act "normal" and fight it for so long that admitting it feels like defeat. When I first read the traits, I INSTANTLY knew it was me. It was a lightbulb-type moment, but I also got this wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach that screamed NO....it can't be. It's only been the last three or four months that I've owned up to the disorder....and I still can't talk to anyone about it. Deep down, she probably knows, but it's very hard to get to that point of acceptance.

waggiedog · Oct 30, 2012 at 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by MoodSwingChaos

Hi All, Ive been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and I am feel completely alone and lost, not knowing how to control my mood swings which has ruined friendships and relationships...Any help would be great, I dont want to ruin anymore relationships

Hi, I'm Carol from the cold, wet and frosty UK. Yeah, I feel like the only borderliner in the world, in fact I was born with it 30 odd years ago when it had no name, or maybe kinda ''split personality'' derived from horror films!!!!! through Psych Central I have met one very special lady friend, sorta best femail friend, this has made a great difference to my life. UK psycs don't even aknowledge BPD in the way they do bi-polar or other disorders so life is pretty hard - sometimes too hard to bare. But stay with psych central and you wont go wrong. BIG HUGS, Carol Waggiedog

Techscape · Oct 31, 2012 at 05:18 AM

Hi. After regressing I feel like I have done something to bring myself here. I hate everything and everyone. The relationship I am in? Very likely ruined. I have no idea what to do or what to say, just confused about everything and angry to boot.

Nothing like feeling worthless, lost, empty, and split. Right?

I have no idea if the community here is accepting or not, but I have nothing to lose and hopefully I can try to expose all of this to get myself away from what I am feeling, just for a bit until I can understand. Having lived with this for a while, there has to be someone out there I can talk to... So... Help?

Oct 31, 2012 at 07:03 PM

Hi, Techscape. I've only been here a short time, but it's been my experience that the community is very accepting and caring. I hope you find some relief from sharing your experiences-- people here understand about regressing, confusion, anger, emptiness, and all the rest of the fun stuff that goes on in our minds. Welcome!

Bisque · Nov 21, 2012 at 05:35 PM

I don't know where to begin.

Finding this board has been an eye opener in to understanding myself a bit better. I've cried a few times while reading through some things here just because i've never really known anyone that -understood- what I go through emotionally.

I'm 27 and have only just recently (past few months) been diagnosed with 'symptoms' of BPD along with Major Depression. For me I wish I had been given a full diagnosis of BPD. Everything here seems..spot on for what my life and reactions are like. I've gone from diagnosis to diagnosis since I was about 12 and none of them have fit me so perfectly until now. I'm tired of doctors not wanting to settle on what's wrong with me and actually create a plan to help change things.

I never thought I was *alone* with my problems per say, but it's good to actually find people that understand.

my heart goes out to everyone who lives with this disorder. Life shouldn't be a constant rollercoaster.

waggiedog · Nov 22, 2012 at 08:30 AM

Hi there Dr. and thankyou for including us borderliners in your community sites. I'm from the UK and the Dr's here mostly do not treat BPD because they say we are very unreliable and give no positive feedback, not to be trusted and basically have a bad reputation!! Great eh? Though I have to admit I certainly do fit all these things being said and more negative issues besides. I'm lead to believe these are hardly any BPD sufferers here so I've never met anybody or even heard of anybody with borderline over the last 30 years. Therefore I'm very relieved to have found your site with a place espically for BPD sufferers. Thanks again. X

waggiedog · Nov 22, 2012 at 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Techscape

Hi. After regressing I feel like I have done something to bring myself here. I hate everything and everyone. The relationship I am in? Very likely ruined. I have no idea what to do or what to say, just confused about everything and angry to boot.

Nothing like feeling worthless, lost, empty, and split. Right?

I have no idea if the community here is accepting or not, but I have nothing to lose and hopefully I can try to expose all of this to get myself away from what I am feeling, just for a bit until I can understand. Having lived with this for a while, there has to be someone out there I can talk to... So... Help?

Hi there. I just want to say YES I feel exactly as you do at the moment, full of hate and anger at myself and basically everybody else. OKi so I've been here a thousand times in the 30 years of suffering but I'm lead to believe BPD gets slightly better and easier to manage as you get older - NOPE, not for me, it's getting WORSE. I'm so relieved to have found this place on PC as I've been on PC for quite some time but diddn't know there was a place especially for borderliners. Only we can truely understand what it's like to suffer and suffer is absolutely the right word. Next to us I'd say family or who ever we live with also knows how awful BPD really is. What I do know is so called 'professionals' DO NOT know how we feel or why we do the things we do and at the end of the day they really can't help us. Drugs do help me somewhat but they don't help everybody, DBT is hailed as the one thing that does seem to make a difference but I have not actually tried this. I had CBT many years ago before DBT became so well used or even known about (in the UK) CBT did not help at all. I'm sure if nothing else we will find much support here so lets keep coming back and lets find 'friends' we can talk to and relate to, a thing we can't find out in the 'normal' world. Good luck. X

kstief86 · Nov 29, 2012 at 10:02 PM

I am new to this site, and i just want to say thank you for making a forum for Borderline Personality Disorder, I haven't been diagnosed with it long, but I have had it for years, just no body has been able to help me out with understanding this until recently.

channelblocker · Dec 12, 2012 at 07:09 PM

Hi! I'm new to this group. I don't know what to do. I suspect my husband has BPD. Our relationship is like a roller coaster.

km27 · Jan 12, 2013 at 11:46 PM

Are there still group chats?

m5000 · Jan 22, 2013 at 08:21 PM

Hi, i just joined this site. I am a 32 y.o. man from southern England who struggles greatly with BPD and Bipolar. I've become very isolated lately, discharged from mental health service, so maybe this forum will be useful for me. So hello.

yellow_birdy1992 · Jan 23, 2013 at 11:31 PM

I'm new to the forum

ECHOES · Jan 24, 2013 at 02:59 AM

Hi m5000 and yellow_bird1992 and welcome to the forum!

Glad to have you here

Please post below when you feel ready.

lovesdaughter · Jan 30, 2013 at 10:26 PM

Am I in the right place? My grown, newly pregnant daughter has BPD and recently kicked me out of her life..(again). Helppp, I don't want to make it worse.

lovesdaughter · Jan 31, 2013 at 12:42 PM

I am looking for some advice myself, and don't feeli like I'm using this site correctly.

Jan 31, 2013 at 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by lovesdaughter

I am looking for some advice myself, and don't feeli like I'm using this site correctly.

It's perfectly cool to talk to us. There is also a section in the relationships forum called "Partners with Personality Disorders". Not a perfect fit but it might help.

Be patient. All of the answers are not going to come overnight, but you're on the right track.

mraas72 · Feb 10, 2013 at 04:45 PM

I am pretty new here for about 1 month, I am 40 yrs old almost 41. I was told I might be BPD about a month ago and just my last counseling appointment found out that I am truly BP. I have been going through a very ruff young adulthood and I wondered why I didn't have friends or BFs for more then a few months at a time or for a few years at a time. NOW I know and I am trying to change my ways but it will take years of learning. I am glad I am here now in this moment but who know what will happen down the line. All I know is I am grateful that this website is here so thank you.

Feb 17, 2013 at 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by lovesdaughter

I am looking for some advice myself, and don't feeli like I'm using this site correctly.

I'm not using it right either your
Not alone

greentires4me · Feb 21, 2013 at 01:10 AM

hello from BC, Canada...

I have BPD was diagnosed about a year ago just looking for people like me...

ScreamingZero · Feb 21, 2013 at 06:25 PM

Hi all, I'm a 29 female who was diagnosed with BPD 10 years ago. I never really thought about using a forum, but I'll give it a go.

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Anonymous34566 Guest Posts: n/a	Oct 31, 2012 at 07:03 PM #64 Hi, Techscape. I've only been here a short time, but it's been my experience that the community is very accepting and caring. I hope you find some relief from sharing your experiences-- people here understand about regressing, confusion, anger, emptiness, and all the rest of the fun stuff that goes on in our minds. Welcome!
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kstief86 New Member Member Since Nov 2012 Location: Cherokee, Iowa Posts: 3 11	Nov 29, 2012 at 10:02 PM #68 I am new to this site, and i just want to say thank you for making a forum for Borderline Personality Disorder, I haven't been diagnosed with it long, but I have had it for years, just no body has been able to help me out with understanding this until recently.
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channelblocker Junior Member Member Since Dec 2012 Posts: 7 11 17 hugs given	Dec 12, 2012 at 07:09 PM #69 Hi! I'm new to this group. I don't know what to do. I suspect my husband has BPD. Our relationship is like a roller coaster.
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km27 Junior Member Member Since Jan 2013 Posts: 8 11 4 hugs given	Jan 12, 2013 at 11:46 PM #70 Are there still group chats?
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m5000 New Member Member Since Jan 2013 Location: southern England Posts: 5 11	Jan 22, 2013 at 08:21 PM #71 Hi, i just joined this site. I am a 32 y.o. man from southern England who struggles greatly with BPD and Bipolar. I've become very isolated lately, discharged from mental health service, so maybe this forum will be useful for me. So hello.
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yellow_birdy1992 New Member Member Since Jan 2013 Posts: 2 11	Jan 23, 2013 at 11:31 PM #72 I'm new to the forum
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ECHOES Legendary Member Since Aug 2007 Location: West of Tampa Bay, East of the Gulf of Mexico Posts: 14,352 (SuperPoster!) 16 1,020 hugs given	Jan 24, 2013 at 02:59 AM #73 Hi m5000 and yellow_bird1992 and welcome to the forum! Glad to have you here Please post below when you feel ready.
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lovesdaughter Junior Member Member Since Jan 2013 Posts: 14 11 2 hugs given	Jan 30, 2013 at 10:26 PM #74 Am I in the right place? My grown, newly pregnant daughter has BPD and recently kicked me out of her life..(again). Helppp, I don't want to make it worse.
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lovesdaughter Junior Member Member Since Jan 2013 Posts: 14 11 2 hugs given	Jan 31, 2013 at 12:42 PM #75 I am looking for some advice myself, and don't feeli like I'm using this site correctly.
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greentires4me Magnate Member Since Feb 2013 Location: planet earth Posts: 2,986 11 401 hugs given	Feb 21, 2013 at 01:10 AM #79 hello from BC, Canada... I have BPD was diagnosed about a year ago just looking for people like me... __________________ Love, Light and Happiness!!!
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ScreamingZero New Member Member Since Feb 2013 Location: Moving back East Coast in a few weeks! Posts: 1 11	Feb 21, 2013 at 06:25 PM #80 Hi all, I'm a 29 female who was diagnosed with BPD 10 years ago. I never really thought about using a forum, but I'll give it a go.
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