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But that's all studies on hitting and beating, not spanking which is a completely different subject matter.
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Repeatedly swatting a child over and over on the behind is hitting. If I did something in front of my house that my neighbor did not like and his giant butt came running over to me and swatting me on the butt I'd call the authorities because it's assault and a crime.....but when young tiny children who cannot defend themselves and feel powerless get hit, it's called discipline.
I've said my peace on this topic. I hope the trend of spanking less continues and old outdated, ineffective methods are left in the past where they belong. I hope the US and it's occupants smarten up soon and join the growing number of countries who have banned corporal punishment for good. I realize some hope more people will hit there kids cause it will solve all behavior problems in their eyes but I have a right to my opinion that it would be a mistake. Open eyes, I too felt HORRIBLE when spanking my children. It was the wrong choice and served no purpose. Stressed parents spank and saying it's ok causes some very stressed parents to beat. This is a fail for society. It leads to people who spend all day on mental health boards with severe neurosis. |
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Spanking IS hitting.
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Ok ArtChick, perhaps we are not understanding each other. Describe a spanking as you see it.
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I am against any kind of physical punishment. Spanking is hitting.
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BEATING, HITTING etc: are violent excessive actions that leave bruises, welts, and possibly broken/sprained limbs. BIG DIFFERENCE. Anyone should know that leaving bruises and welts on a child is abuse, but spanking is most definitely NOT abuse in any way. __________________ MY BLOG IS NOW CONVENIENTLY LOCATED HERE!! [UPDATED: 4/30/2017] LIFE IS TOO SHORT, TOO VALUABLE AND TOO PRECIOUS A THING TO WASTE!! |
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You are raising a hand to a child. You are striking a child.
Spanking | Define Spanking at Dictionary.com spank1 [spangk] Spell Syllables verb (used with object) 1. to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment. noun 2. a blow given in spanking; a smart or resounding slap. __________________ "I get knocked down, but I get up again..." Bipolar 1 |
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I really don't see how you can claim spanking is not hitting. I understand (understand, not necessarily agree) saying spanking is different from beating, but spanking IS hitting. You hit someone repeatedly on the buttocks. It might be an accepable form of hitting, it might be a non-abusive form of hitting - but it's still hitting.
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Exactly.
It has to do with the attitude. Like I said on an earlier response. Thank you, Trace14 __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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Some children react to spanking, and it works. Nothing hurt but their feelings. But some kids don't respond as well, which I think infuriates the parents more and then they cross that line of making it hurt. My cousin was like that. He would laugh when they gave him a spanking, then they really tore into his butt. He knew how to push their buttons and almost dared them to react. They were very nice people. He was always into something according to my mom. My point is that there are so many variables to spanking, the kid, the parent, substance abuse on either, acting in anger, wanting to inflict pain, use it as a form of discipline in the right way.
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#36
"Being spanked properly", well that's still a hit. Not a beating, but a hit. I mean, come on, if I slap my fiance's shoulder because he farted on me (yes it happens), even if I'm joking, I still just hit the guy. Any forceful strike leading to physical contact is a hit.
Now concerning whether or not I believe in spanking. I lean more towards no. The reason being, I, myself will never be okay with laying hands on a child. I've done it once because I was told and I felt an incredible amount of guilt because I knew there had to be a better way. And there is: Talking. Even as small children you can talk to them constructively (sometimes through play). If they're not in the mindset to be talked to, time-out and let them calm down. That's how I did it and those boys went from little terrors to very respectful kids. And they were smart, straight up little geniuses. Some people believe in spankings. Fine. I just know that I can't do it and won't. Even if it's more difficult and requires more time, there are more constructive ways to lead to the same goal. I never got a little tap that only caused my skin to redden. No, my mom had a board (the pattle) and when that thing came down... let's just say it didn't teach me a damn thing other than 'try to block it otherwise you won't sit for a week'. And I didn't just get spanked on the ***. Where ever that thing landed, it's where it landed. I don't know what a contructive spanking is, so that might explain my stance. Regardless, this is just my opinion. Take it how you however you want. __________________ "Give him his freedom and he'll remember his humanity." |
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thank you for sharing this artickle.
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I was spanked too often as a young person, but it made me a stronger person today. Today I counsel parents on raising their kids. Sometimes it involves spanking sometimes it doesn’t. Spanking can be a part of effective child rearing but not if it is the ONLY thing.
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I was spanked (and other... ) too. Thanks for posting
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