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Old 09-24-2017, 02:42 AM #21
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It could just be another fiery hell. Just rise from the ashes, majestic phoenix, and burn the skies with your fire


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how do you even start to recover from that
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You start by forgiving
i know it seems impossible but you can't begin to heal yourself until you let go of the anger because that anger and resentment you hold in your heart is only hurting you.

I used to fight and argue with my mom i would say the meanest nastiest things that i knew would cut her the deepest because just once i wanted to hurt her the way she hurts me then maybe just maybe she will see how it feels.
but the meaner i got the meaner she got and she won
every
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it got worse and worse we were literally trying to kill each other she was bigger and meaner and all i was doing was setting her off and once you set her off she doesnt stop. I would always end up crying and begging her to stop but she would keep going...
Finally, i gave up.
I forgave her.
i tried to forget
I let go of the anger
i stopped trying to win
and things got a lot better. still far from perfect but so much better than before.

The hardest part of that is being the bigger person when they are supposed to be the parent and you are supposed to be the child.
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You start by forgiving
i know it seems impossible but you can't begin to heal yourself until you let go of the anger because that anger and resentment you hold in your heart is only hurting you.

I used to fight and argue with my mom i would say the meanest nastiest things that i knew would cut her the deepest because just once i wanted to hurt her the way she hurts me then maybe just maybe she will see how it feels.
but the meaner i got the meaner she got and she won
every
single
time.
it got worse and worse we were literally trying to kill each other she was bigger and meaner and all i was doing was setting her off and once you set her off she doesnt stop. I would always end up crying and begging her to stop but she would keep going...
Finally, i gave up.
I forgave her.
i tried to forget
I let go of the anger
i stopped trying to win
and things got a lot better. still far from perfect but so much better than before.

The hardest part of that is being the bigger person when they are supposed to be the parent and you are supposed to be the child.


well, i'm certainly not at that stage.

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all i'm saying is this.

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all i'm saying is this.

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Why don't you get away?


i'm away from the physical side for now (I live 2 hours from them)

phone and email abuse is harder, block like 50 numbers and email addresses, then they just change their numbers and contact me again.

plus, i'm not entirely free of the physical side, everyone my family talks to.. they tell them to make sure if they meet me, they abuse me (sort of like, they can't do it, because I'm too far away for them to do it, but someone else can)

endless cycle really.
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Both Mom and Dad: Why didn't the two of you value yourselves more? You were both outstanding people, but both of you negated yourselves.

I miss both of you very, very much.
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i'm away from the physical side for now (I live 2 hours from them)

phone and email abuse is harder, block like 50 numbers and email addresses, then they just change their numbers and contact me again.

plus, i'm not entirely free of the physical side, everyone my family talks to.. they tell them to make sure if they meet me, they abuse me (sort of like, they can't do it, because I'm too far away for them to do it, but someone else can)

endless cycle really.
I kind of understand what you're saying. I'm choosing to completely cut out everyone when I feel strong enough, good or bad, because I'll need to be freed of the bad and unfortunately some of the good will have to go with it.
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I'm sorry i didn't realize it was that bad.
Maybe you can get restraining orders to keep them away from you?
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I'm sorry i didn't realize it was that bad.
Maybe you can get restraining orders to keep them away from you?


yeah, maybe.
or terminate their rights as parents.

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as for the restraining order, what do I do.. ring the police and say, hi, I would like a restraining order on such and such because of this?

I really don't know how it works, so if anyone of you do, please let me know
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