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Jan 13, 2018 at 04:15 AM
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I saw this video. It struck a chord with me. Babies are so vulnerable and so exquisitely dependent on their parents for appropriate nurturing care. When watching this video I got a tiny glimpse of how devastating emotional neglect is on tiny children. Even if it is unintentional through adult mental illness or whatever. Its easy to see how the effects would be lifelong.
I don't even know if I can post a link to the video here. I hope so, or this post is just a waste. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6czxW4R9w2g I was that child. I was also that parent. |
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Jan 20, 2018 at 10:34 AM
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It's childhood emotional neglect that brought me here and that video asserts all what I have learned. Being part of a big family it is well researched how two parents can only give so much love and attention to all their kids. We had plenty of money but no parents because of it. They were too busy making money than spending one on one "Quality" time with their kids. They were there but I felt like I was in the way. Kids remember everything. My older brother is just like my father, "its all about the money", the kids will be fine. Because he was the only son he wanted and he got all the one on one quality time. __________________ "So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the key" |
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Jan 21, 2018 at 04:54 PM
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I think it's important to mention when it comes to early childhood needs that a baby can be exposed to a jealous sibling that traumatize them that ends up presenting some life long challenges as well. Also, if a baby or very young child witnesses abuse, that can traumatize them leaving long term damage as well.
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Jan 21, 2018 at 05:12 PM
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Me too. I was that child and I didn’t know any other way to function as a new parent. Generational residue. I so wish I could go back and be a different mom to my boys when they were babies. It wrenches my heart. I am thankful that I woke up and I’m doing what I can now for things to be different. Thank you for posting this video. I’m going to share it with my oldest son who has an 8 month old. People are so worried about spoiling babies and having to have the interaction that it takes for them to feel safe, heard and seen. I have the joy of being able to spend the day with my grand daughter and connect with her. I know now how important it is. Thanks again! __________________ "What is denied, cannot be healed." - Brennan Manning "Hope knows that if great trials are avoided, great deeds remain undone and the possibility of growth into greatness of soul is aborted." - Brennan Manning |
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Mar 24, 2018 at 06:28 PM
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Aug 01, 2018 at 03:42 PM
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I want to bump this to continue the conversation.
A baby's mind is like a clean hard drive and being raised in a hostile environment, physical or emotional, with mixed messages is like installing a virus. Thats the best analogy I can wrap my head around. __________________ "So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the key" |
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