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Old 05-19-2018, 12:13 AM #11
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--I'm not going to use "looking for a father for my kids" as an excuse to keep marrying the next abusive alcoholic that comes along. Instead, I'm going to work on myself and my own life, so I can attract a man who will actually make a good father.

--We're going to stop moving around and changing schools so much. We're going to stay where we are so you can get a stable, continual education in one spot.
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I accept you for who you are. You are good enough the way you are!

You're not being too sensitive. You have the right to feel hurt if people are mean to you.

Tell me why you feel the way you feel. I'm listening with love.

Instead of telling you to get over it and expecting you to just overcome the problem with no emotional support, let me help you with some compassion to get through it.
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--I trust you to make the right choice for yourself, even if it isn't the same choice I would have made.
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"I understand how you feel and it's okay to feel this way. There's nothing to be ashamed of."
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"good night, love"

not difficult

" I love you"

" I'm proud of you"

" let's do something together"

"here, let me treat you"
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I love you.

You're my little man and Mammy will always love you.

Sit you down when you're sad and listen to understand and not to reply.

Show compassion even when you're going through your own strifes.

Remember that children are sponges and while they may not remember what you said at the time, it may and will surface in the future.

Show an interest in your hobbies and not just an interest on why you're getting in trouble and stating how bold you are.
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We accept you, exactly as you are, and we love you for being who you are. Nobody has ever said that to me and I think a lot of my self hatred comes from it.
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- I love you and support you regardless.

- You're free to be whoever you want to be, and we'll always support you

Instead, I heard, "If you're someone we like, we'll still talk to you when you're older.", actual quote

And

"If you try to make yourself different from us, we'll distance ourselves from you."

Also, an actual quote. Didn't even realize this was anything other than normal until recently
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"I love you"
"You look so pretty"
"Tell me what's troubling you"
"I will always protect you"
"You did so well today - I'm really proud of you"
"I will never use you as the messenger for the arguments I have with your dad"
"I love you and your brother equally - whatever I do for him I will do for you"
"Let's do something together - your choice"

I could go on ad infinitum. I am so messed up in the head. I have been diagnosed with childhood emotional neglect by a psychiatrist but knowing why I have so many problems does nothing to alter how impossible it seems to overcome any of them.
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