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Do you feel somehow unworthy because you never had a good relationship with your parents? How do you get over this? I always feel like an outsider who doesn’t measure up.
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I mostly just think that "that's how it was " . Life is not a Hollywood movie . Many times a life is not perfect . Sure I feel bitter about it ..and I know that it has an effect on me even now . I also know I carry the genes which influenced that situation . But I don't feel unworthy . I'm out there bumping shoulders with the rest of the seven and a half billion misfits in the world ...and I'm not less than any of them . I'm no better than them , but certainly no less .
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Just make your parents irrelevant. I do it so well these days I have practised pretending to be sad when one of the idiots dies , so I don't appear to be an unfeeling monster . I don't wish them Ill , I just have been so successful at making them irrelevant that I know longer have any feelings towards them .
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I think over the years I've got used to the fact that my family hated me

it's still hard, and I still have this thought.. well if I can't turn to my own family, then who can I turn to?

and I know when people are nice to me, I'm like to them... why?. I deserve abuse.
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I mostly just think that "that's how it was " . Life is not a Hollywood movie . Many times a life is not perfect . Sure I feel bitter about it ..and I know that it has an effect on me even now . I also know I carry the genes which influenced that situation . But I don't feel unworthy . I'm out there bumping shoulders with the rest of the seven and a half billion misfits in the world ...and I'm not less than any of them . I'm no better than them , but certainly no less .


You’re right. Life is not a Hollywood movie. None of us is promised a smooth, easy ride.
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I think over the years I've got used to the fact that my family hated me



it's still hard, and I still have this thought.. well if I can't turn to my own family, then who can I turn to?



and I know when people are nice to me, I'm like to them... why?. I deserve abuse.


No. You don’t. You don’t deserve abuse.
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No. You don’t. You don’t deserve abuse.


it is nice to hear that.

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Do you feel somehow unworthy because you never had a good relationship with your parents? How do you get over this? I always feel like an outsider who doesn’t measure up.

Yep. I used to feel like I didn't deserve to be in parks or other public spaces because I hadn't "earned" it, like it was too good for me.


I'm still working on not feeling like the outsider. I think you just have to find good people who have similar values and interests. It takes time though.
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Yep. I used to feel like I didn't deserve to be in parks or other public spaces because I hadn't "earned" it, like it was too good for me.


I'm still working on not feeling like the outsider. I think you just have to find good people who have similar values and interests. It takes time though.


I feel like an outsider when I meet new people. I have these weird thoughts and feelings that others are more deserving than me because they have a family (parents) that loves them. I’ve been reading a book on neuroplasticity and I know I literally have to train my brain to stop thinking like this.
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I feel like an outsider when I meet new people. I have these weird thoughts and feelings that others are more deserving than me because they have a family (parents) that loves them. I’ve been reading a book on neuroplasticity and I know I literally have to train my brain to stop thinking like this.

Yeah, it's hard work, but the brain's pretty amazing! You'll get there.
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