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Help Mar 27, 2019 at 01:43 PM
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Name one or more things that helps your inner child

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Default Mar 28, 2019 at 05:53 AM
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Listening, talking, praise for taking positive steps
+ allowing her to have a say when making choices (we now have an imaginary dog who gets to vote on major life choices also!!!)

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nursery rymes

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chocolate/ candy they like

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I have found this really useful. I ask my inner child what their preference is.

I also ask them what they want when I am sad. Normally it's just a want for me to look after myself e.g. Cook myself dinner, tidy my room. This has been a really stabilising part.
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I have found this really useful. I ask my inner child what their preference is.

I also ask them what they want when I am sad. Normally it's just a want for me to look after myself e.g. Cook myself dinner, tidy my room. This has been a really stabilising part.

Yes I agree. My inner child is in charge of food supply when I'm too depressed to bother. My inner child likes being tidy and doing the washing up. She gets me to the doctor on time. She tells me when I'm being stupid. She is no angel: she also like talking in loud, silly voices and blaming me for everything.

The most important step to connecting with her was doing simple tasks together and saying "well done". With an inner child trying is more important than never making a mistake.

We have some rules about what goes where in the house - no food in the bedroom, showering before going out, for example - but beyond those simple rules we compromise, or else she gets free rein.

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Music. Daydreaming. Writing jokes.
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Thank you so much for making this thread, Fuzzybear! It's important to take care of our inner child. Thank you so much everyone for sharing all of your experiences! Sending many hugs to you, Fuzzybear, and to everyone, including all of you wonderful people here on PC! Keep fighting! You're all awesome, strong warriors! Keep fighting!
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Default Apr 05, 2019 at 10:09 AM
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One of the things that helped my inner child heal from the inner emptiness growing up is by becoming my own parent. I took a notebook, and wrote down the aspects of my personality, along with talents that I have, and I wrote down while asking myself what is it about these qualities about myself that I like.

e.g What is it about writing stories that I love about myself? I love it because I feel like I'm contributing something to the world whenever I write a story.

You'd be surprised at how practicing this can calm that inner sadness/emptiness that eats away at your soul every day.

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Yes I agree. My inner child is in charge of food supply when I'm too depressed to bother. My inner child likes being tidy and doing the washing up. She gets me to the doctor on time. She tells me when I'm being stupid. She is no angel: she also like talking in loud, silly voices and blaming me for everything.

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We have some rules about what goes where in the house - no food in the bedroom, showering before going out, for example - but beyond those simple rules we compromise, or else she gets free rein.

We also have an inner critic inside us. Your inner child is unlikely to be the one telling you your are stupid. That talk comes from the inner critic.

For me going back to a childlike way of relating to things helps. Thus my inner critic is AKA my inner snake. Creating a world where my inner child feels comfort helps.

I also love meerkats....
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I've started to say, " good girl" when i've done something good.
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Bedtime stories
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do you have any stories for my thread?

(the stories for the littles thread)

what is your favorite story
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being warm

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