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Old 04-03-2019, 08:42 PM #1
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Question Do you often feel empty or numb?

I have dealt with a feeling of deep emptiness all my life. I recently read that this can be caused by childhood emotional neglect. I certainly grew up with that. Just wondering if anyone else has a recurring feeling of emptiness? If so, how do you manage it? Did you ever find a way to let go of it or begin to feel whole or complete? If you have not found something to help, please feel free to share anyway. It's an awful lonely feeling. Not something I feel comfortable discussing in the non-PC world. it would help to hear from others who also feel this way.
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Well... I don't know as there is much of anything I can offer with regard to this. But I noticed no one had replied to this post. So I thought I would.

I guess I don't really know what extreme emptiness would feel like. Because of the various issues I've dealt with all of my life I have lived with what is, perhaps, something that may be similar? I guess I would call it confusion, fear, lack of "belongingness"... never feeling as though I fit in anywhere, never really having any real sense of who I am. As I have written a number of times, here on PC, I learned very early in life (I don't know how) there were things about myself I must never talk about. And so I never did.

I also have to say I don't really know as it would be appropriate for me to claim to have been the victim of CEN. Way back when I was young, at least where I grew up, there was no such thing. Children were to be seen & not heard. We just grew up. And whatever happened... happened. It would never have occurred to anyone that there could even be such as thing as CEN. But, then, that could be said of a number of other things that have been relevant to my life as well.
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Well... I don't know as there is much of anything I can offer with regard to this. But I noticed no one had replied to this post. So I thought I would.

I guess I don't really know what extreme emptiness would feel like. Because of the various issues I've dealt with all of my life I have lived with what is, perhaps, something that may be similar? I guess I would call it confusion, fear, lack of "belongingness"... never feeling as though I fit in anywhere, never really having any real sense of who I am. As I have written a number of times, here on PC, I learned very early in life (I don't know how) there were things about myself I must never talk about. And so I never did.

I also have to say I don't really know as it would be appropriate for me to claim to have been the victim of CEN. Way back when I was young, at least where I grew up, there was no such thing. Children were to be seen & not heard. We just grew up. And whatever happened... happened. It would never have occurred to anyone that there could even be such as thing as CEN. But, then, that could be said of a number of other things that have been relevant to my life as well.
Sounds like you know exactly what I'm talking about Skeezyks! I have the lack of belongingness, never feeling I fit anywhere etc. I've had that since childhood. It's very unpleasant. best I've done is work around it in my life but there's always a void. And it feels like that void is significant or trying to communicate something to me. Does that make any sense? Like something I need to adjust for but I don't know what exactly it is or how to adjust.

I thank you very much for reading and sharing. Your thoughts have helped me...for so long I thought nobody else had such feelings...not persistently anyway. That said, I am also sorry you have felt this way. I wish you didn't! I don't know you well obviously but I follow your posts and I think you're a lovely guy! I am honored that you are one of my PC pals. Peace and hope to you Skeezyks.
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I never fit in anywhere. I feel acceptance when I'm either by myself or during yoga practice. I'm mostly ok with being the weird kid
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I am not sure as have times where Im really sad or depressed and dont want to feel anything.
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I have dealt with a feeling of deep emptiness all my life. I recently read that this can be caused by childhood emotional neglect. I certainly grew up with that. Just wondering if anyone else has a recurring feeling of emptiness? If so, how do you manage it? Did you ever find a way to let go of it or begin to feel whole or complete? If you have not found something to help, please feel free to share anyway. It's an awful lonely feeling. Not something I feel comfortable discussing in the non-PC world. it would help to hear from others who also feel this way.
Yeah, I also used to feel that way. Actually, in my case, on some days I used to feel empty inside, almost like having a hole in my chest, while on other days I felt a lot of sadness because I felt like an alien on Earth, wanting to be understood by others, but felt like no one cared.

One way I overcame it (which I mentioned in my blog in one of my first posts) is by practicing self-validation/self-love. The way you do that is by thinking up, and writing down personality traits that you like about yourself, as well as writing down any talents you have, or any of your achievements, and then asking yourself why you like these things about yourself. So for example:

1. I never give up when it comes to reaching my goals, and I like that about myself because not everyone has that kind of will when they want attain something.

Childhood Emotional Neglect happens when your parent(s) invalidate your feelings growing up, perhaps because they thought that if feelings weren't talked about at home, then you would've gotten over your hurt feelings faster, or because avoiding discussing feelings would've prevented rocking the boat (or so they thought). You pretty much grow to be disconnected from your feelings, and invalidating your own feelings, although once you start validating yourself, you also start getting more in touch with your feelings.
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Yep, feeling that right now. I have always had that feeling. That I am living on the edges of society and I don't fit in anywhere. I am an alien. I shouldn't be here but I guess I insisted I have only been able to cope with it so far by acknowledging that there is nothing wrong with my life. I also reminded myself when I was in my manic state of mind to remind myself that reality remains the same and I am the one who has a changing perspective.

It is still a horribly heavy-yet-empty cavernous place (does dark matter have weight)in your being, right in the middle of your chest. When I was younger on the street I would go numb, because that was the most useful for survival mode.

But basically I attribute this feeling of emptiness to the many disappointment I suffered as a child. It is the continuous feeling of having been disappointed by the people that you believed should have cared and taken care of you both physically and emotionally. I also have anxiety because of the dread I felt along with the fear of being physically abused.

I chastise myself for allowing these thoughts of negativity and self-loathing or just telling myself how much better off I'd be if this, that. or the other thing...and blah, blah, blah.

I hold on with the knowledge that as long as I continue I will soon find myself walking down the pleasant road being grateful for everything and smiling on the inside. The depression legs of my journey always seem much longer than the manic ones. It seriously is just a matter of perspective. Unfortunately, I have trouble tapping the happy perspective right now.

But this too shall pass...
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Sometimes sadness feels like emptiness to me.
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I do feel this way too. I deal with it by distracting myself using media, images, reading books, making soap.

I create my own mini world. I never fit in anywhere either. I stopped trying to fit in and I created my own mini world in my home, away from other people.
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I'd call it saddness/grief. I have a huge scarf and I wrap myself up in it and allow myself an hour of suffering. I'm allowing myself to go through this, but I put limited time. It often overfloods me after talking/meeting my mom as it exegerates the feeling that there should have been love and it's not there.
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