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My mom has been very abusive to me my entire life. She tried to kill me when I was 2. She called me when she was in the pool. I walked into the pool. I say her walking towards me and then turn around. I looked the other way and say my father walking towards me and he picked me up. My mom could have cared less if I drowned and this was evident in her behavior. She saw me fall in the pool and was walking towards me. Then she turned around and continued to walk away from me. She caused me to start hallucinating. The mental health workers keep forcing me to have a relationship with her. Why don't they allow me to stop contact with her?
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Is it because they think you need closure?
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Closure for what?
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May I ask how old you are? Who are the mental health workers? What are their credentials?

Are you a minor living with your mother and a social worker is trying to help you navigate that?

Or an adult who no longer lives with parents?

If you're an adult, nobody can force you to do anything. if you don't want a relationship with someone, you don't have to have one.

The research in psych suggests that some sort of middle ground is healthiest. Being enmeshed with abusive family members is obviously very harmful. But complete estrangement carries it's own burden and pain too. So I think that's why therapists try to help clients work toward a middle ground. That's what my therapist recommended though we did not always agree. I support each person's own individual choice. I was estranged from my abusive father when he died. I try the middle ground with my mother....sometimes I am more successful than others. It is really difficult.
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May I ask how old you are? Who are the mental health workers? What are their credentials?

Are you a minor living with your mother and a social worker is trying to help you navigate that?

Or an adult who no longer lives with parents?

If you're an adult, nobody can force you to do anything. if you don't want a relationship with someone, you don't have to have one.

The research in psych suggests that some sort of middle ground is healthiest. Being enmeshed with abusive family members is obviously very harmful. But complete estrangement carries it's own burden and pain too. So I think that's why therapists try to help clients work toward a middle ground. That's what my therapist recommended though we did not always agree. I support each person's own individual choice. I was estranged from my abusive father when he died. I try the middle ground with my mother....sometimes I am more successful than others. It is really difficult.
I am an adult who haven't lived with my parents for a long time. The mental health workers don't believe me. They want to become more mentally ill, I guess. I would be happy to not have her in my life. I stopped talking to her a long time ago because she was abusing my infant son. Then, the mental health workers forced me to start having a relationship with her again.
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Make your own decision.

It is unfortunate that there are many professionals that do not understand abuse in childhood....

I like to take plenty of time to make a big decision....
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My mom has been very abusive to me my entire life. She tried to kill me when I was 2. She called me when she was in the pool. I walked into the pool. I say her walking towards me and then turn around. I looked the other way and say my father walking towards me and he picked me up. My mom could have cared less if I drowned and this was evident in her behavior. She saw me fall in the pool and was walking towards me. Then she turned around and continued to walk away from me. She caused me to start hallucinating. The mental health workers keep forcing me to have a relationship with her. Why don't they allow me to stop contact with her?
Honestly, if your body gets struck with fear when you think of her, and your heart tells you to stay away from her, then listen to it. Your body gives you these warning signals for a reason, don't deny them.
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