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Wisest Elder Ever
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I don’t know when I’ll stop being a mistake. I don’t know when I’ll be ok as is. I don’t know when I will be as worthwhile as every other human on this planet.
Probably never. I’m empty and useless.. goals are things to be thrown in my face ... I’m a toy to be battered by people who are better than I am People in real life hate me because of how I look. Or maybe just because I’m me. I have no idea how to change this __________________ |
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You are a very wise bear Fuzzy...
Your snake is being cruel, You are not useless I have not met you but if people judge the way you look they are bullies Papa bear loves you, he sees your beauty I feel sure your inner cub and snake are feeling unloved |
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Wisest Elder Ever
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It is really hard when we have never learned to place our value of ourself within ourself & not in the hands of what others think.
I said it is hard....NOT impossible. It takes a lot of changing of our own mind set (neuropathways in the brain) which takes practice & repetition & in doing that we will piss them off even more because they like us the way we are because thst is the oerson they have control over. We basically have to be glad we are pissing them off because that finally means we are caring for ourself. Sometimes even that concept we have to learn to become ok with. Not an easy task but it does work. I couldn't do it in the environment (marriage ) I was living in because he was part of the problem not the solution....but your pappa bear is supportive of you. DBT was my greatest therapy help along with the amazing community I moved to. Both helped open up my door so the real me thst had been buried was finally able to come out. But also I always had a personality type that learned to stand up for myself because no one in my family was capable. Only problem was that turned into anger because it wasn't developed properly & that was an issue of it's own I had to learn to deal with. We have to adapt any change to what will really work for us as an individual. .....but it is possible __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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