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... I have ever been told is my father telling me to go and die and I mean nothing to him. He wished if I just died because I was't what he wanted me to be and how to be. This was 16 years ago, and I still remember that moment vividly as yesterday. It's a painful memory. I recently brought this up when I was angry and frustrated of him, and he told me maybe he was angry and didn't mean it, after trying to deny it it never happened. That moment I realized I am just a financial investment to my father, more than anything else. Moments like this (i.e., yelling, criticism, and verbal, emotional and physical abuse) have defined our relationship. Everything else means nothing. And then I am labeled as "ungrateful" by my parents because they are "loving"!!
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That's no way to treat a child. You didn't deserve it. Shame on this man for his cruelty.
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How horrible...my mother said she wished I had never been born......that was 50 years ago; we never forget that kind of cruelty. xo
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NO matter how mad you are at your child there is NO EXCUSE for saying those things. Those are the things that stick and can possibly cause irreparable harm to ones self esteem among other things.
Some people are so self absorbed they havent the faintest idea that the things they are saying hurt. NO matter the circumstances, you dont deserve to be talked to that way. Keep your head up. |
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That's what I said to him. No matter how angry a parent is at their children, telling them to go and die is beyond any comprehension. He prefers me dead than not being what he wants me to be!! Now whatever he says that he cares about me ... etc, I don't believe him.
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I can relate, I feel your pain. I tried to commit suicide when I was 18 (15 years ago) by taking hundreds of pills. My mom found out the next day and told me to "go ahead and kill yourself, but don't do it in my home with my pills!". That's the worst thing she or anyone else has ever said to me. A close second was when I was suicidal several months ago and my boyfriend told me to kill myself. I'm sorry your father said that to you, people you're close to telling you to die or not caring if you do is beyond painful.
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I can so relate to this post.I was scared to talk to my mom growing up.I sometimes tried to,thought the good news I was going to tell her will some how result in the validation I was seeking.Mom,I got my home work done.Mom_well,go die......Mom,I got A+In English.Mom_you didn't in math,go die.Mom,I got all A's including in maths.Mom_well,go die.Mom,I fed sis her bottle,before you came home.Mom smirks_well you didn't clean the bottle afterwards.Go die.Mom,I cleaned the bottle too,look,look.Mom starts hitting me.....go die...go die...why don't you die?........? You got the picture.I am so sorry for all of you whose parents said those awful things.
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I hope the OP is doing ok. Those are AWFUL, HORRIBLE things to tell ANYONE, let alone a child! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND DO KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALL ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELVES AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN! Please be kind to yourselves, ALL of you. None of those things are EVER true, no matter how many times they tell it. It just isn't true! I'm always available for ANYONE who is struggling right now and who want Advice and Support. Please reach out to WHOEVER can help, either here on In Real Life. There IS help available and I'm so sorry for ANYONE who's struggling because NO ONE and I mean NO ONE deserves to suffer! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND DO KEEP ROCKING! Plenty of people here will gladly Listen to ALL OF YOU so PLEASE DO REACH OUT! Sending many safe, warm hugs to ALL OF YOU AND EVERYONE! Please do keep fighting and do keep rocking as much as you possibly can like you're ALL already wonderfully doing ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELVES AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND DO KEEP ROCKING!
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