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Old 06-01-2019, 05:54 PM   #1
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Trig RE: Living With Chronic Pain And Navigating Every Day Life ...

I had a co-worker (that I thought was a friend) do something rather crappy to me last week at work.

We aren't supposed to park the vans (that are used to transport employees back to base at the end of our shifts) on the sidewalk because it's against ADA Policy.

I was happy to see our university finally enforce this because I've seen many a wheelchair bound person have to go out of their way to get somewhere due to this thoughtless (and illegal) practice.

I'm not in a wheelchair yet (thank goodness), but I do have a limited range of motion in my hip joint and utilize a cane to help provide stability and ease the pain when walking around, but when the van is parked on the sidewalk I am still unable to safely access it, even with the little step stool I use because it's way too high on the driver's side and the passenger side is on rough, uneven terrain.

So, I asked the driver ( the coworker I thought was a friend) would they mind moving it over to the parking lot because ... 1. It's not supposed to be on the sidewalk, and ... 2. Because of limited mobility in my hip joint I can't access it from where it's parked on the curb.

Well, they must have had some kind of wasp in their pants because they jerked the van around and exited it leaving it even more inaccessible than before and stalked off. I asked the other occupant of the van would they mind moving it and was basically ignored.

I walked away and waited nearby for several minutes (hoping another coworker would come along and do the right thing) ... Finally the other employee opened the door and shouted over at me ... Hey!, aren't you going to move the van to which I replied I can't get up into the damn van in order to move the damn van, and that is when they finally (yet grudgingly) moved it back over to the parking lot acting like it was such a taxing task to their able bodied little self!

I'd done walked over there (in pain) to where the van was illegally parked, then been left standing there (in pain), and now I've got to walk all the way back over to where the damn van should have been parked in the first damn place (in pain the whole damn way the whole damn time)!

Apologies for all the damns, but ... Dayum!

After this dog and pony show, I'd had enough and when I finally got myself up into the van, I immediately called a supervisor and told them that I was sick and damn tired of my co-workers blowing off the ADA Directive about not parking on the sidewalk and disrespecting my mobility issue to boot! ... I also informed them that I would be writing an e-mail to our operations manager to see if he could make the directive have a little more impact because it'd better damn well never happen again ... Ever!

When I finally got back to my car and went to activate my music app on my phone before leaving, there was a text from the guy I thought was my friend stating that what they did wasn't intentional, to not take it personally and to take care ... I muttered under my breath, EFF YOU!

The next day he said ... Hey, didn't you get my text? ... I don't want to lose our friendship over a sidewalk and you didn't respond, so ... Then he started trying to issue a backhanded apology for his bad behavior by blaming me for him acting the way he did!

Boy was I steaming, but I simply replied, we're cool ...

I didn't even try to make him see what he was doing was wrong ... I didn't even tell him I'd already deleted his number from my phone.

You see, it wasn't about the sidewalk, or the violation of ADA Policy ...

It was about someone who's supposed to be a friend - that knows their buddy has a mobility issue - and instead of helping that buddy out, they left them hung out to dry.

So to heck with them and their apology.

Pfrog ain't got time for friends like that!

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Old 06-01-2019, 06:27 PM   #2
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No, Pfrog, you donít. That twerp is no ďfriendĒ. 👿
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Old 06-01-2019, 06:48 PM   #3
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I should say, that person is no pfriend!
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Exclamation Re: Living With Chronic Pain And Navigating Every Day Life ...

Thankfully our operations manager is a good guy and won't brook any foolishness when it comes to stuff like this!

It still amazes me how some employees will try to put one over on or attempt to get away with what they can.

Then they act like the other person is wrong for having to go to management to make them to do the right thing!

Snitches Get Stitches and all that kind of crap ...

This ain't Jr. & Sr. High, People!

Grow up for Pete's sake!

It just makes me believe less and less in humanity each and every time something like this happens!

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I hear you, Pfrog. Personally I'm not a big fan of humanity in general.

On the other hand there are some special humans, maybe like your Operations Manager?

Wishing you a relaxing weekend....
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This week's event makes the third for the year & involved construction on the bus yard.

The longer walk would make it more difficult (and painful) for those of us with mobility & health issues to get to our buses.

So, until the project was finished (2-3 days max) they were going to provide us a ride out to our buses on the shop's maintenance cart.

But that got shot down by the shop foreman - because he didn't want to be caught up in the drama, I guess ... And, I get that!

All because some able-bodied asstwit complained we were getting "preferential treatment".

Again, our wonderful operations manager came through for us in spite of that jerk!

The creative way he got around this *******'s complaint impressed the heck outta me!

Probably left that SOB steaming mad too, but naught he could do about it so ha-ha to that!

It's really nice to know someone has your back when the chips are down!


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Wow, what a pain in the posterior and other regions that guy was. I'm glad you reported the problem and someone cares.
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Some people like to sashay around ostentatiously wielding their limited power. I guess it makes them feel important .

Glad your O.M. got things squared away for you so you can more comfortably get around, Pfrog.
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Pfrog, I would like to be able to work part-time. I come across many able body people employed at businesses that are full of ableism. The amount of bull crap that they complain about or see as an inconvenience because they do not want to be inclusive of individuals with disabilities never seem to amaze me. I had a manager at one of our local Best Buy tell me if I had grey hair and was in a wheelchair that his employee and folx in society would not attempt to violate accommodations that ADA covers. I explained that his lack of knowledge also showed in his employees. Many people are not aware or knowledgeable on ambulatory wheelchair users or individuals with invisible disabilities, individuals that use mobility aids and devices. I use a cane, accessibility devices at my residence as well. If I do begin to work part-time Iíll definitely put some thought into the company and position I take. I did file a formal complaint with our local attorney general and my case was accepted.
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Friday, October 16th , 2020

When fall and winter arrive I get a bit nervous about my depression returning. Iíve been doing really well the last two years. I have not been on any depression medication or any antipsychotic since the fall of 2018. I created my own coping tool box which I also have to stay up on my autoimmune diseases and rare diseases. I have Hashimoto/Thyroidism/Graves Disease which definitely does impact your mood and emotions.

I had a great conversation with my teenager today. My teenager also has Hashimoto and other autoimmune diseases and rare diseases as well. We both acknowledged that changing our foods, eating certain foods in moderation and regularly being active has made a big difference in our moods. Our mood is not such a roller coaster.

The last few days I can feel how my body is starting to become symptomatic. Weather changes are a big challenge for me. My fibromyalgia pain and fatigue is not shy. Yesterday and today the nausea has been terrible. I drink a lot of caffeine free loose herbal teas. Iíve been very diligent about taking my vitamins and supplements. We recently moved and today a contractor installed grab bars in my restroom.

I walk our dog frequently. Being out in nature helps keep my depression away. My legs have been in a lot of pain so I donít walk too long. I really miss going hiking and look forward to resuming. I sometimes get overwhelmed juggling multiple chronic illnesses and having to stay on healthcare specialists to provide continuity of care.
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9). Hereditary Angioedema (HAE-normal C-1)
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