[-Astral-]

whats the point of being a member here when no one answers your post
no one gives a **** anymore whats the point of this forums if members dont support you
i posted a post about my abuse i have emotions and its upsetting
and seeing that no one gives a **** about me
should i go should i just go and die somewhere ?
maybe i should just disappear

[Medusax]

Ok.........I am listening.........

[Travelinglady]

Astral, I see that at least one person responded to your more recent posts. Sometimes we're overwhelmed with our own problems or we just don't know how to respond, or the topic brings up deep feelings about our own abuse, but I know some people here care. I'm sorry you're struggling so. How can I help?

[-Astral-]

just feel very low sorry i wont post again here i hurt so much sorry for being here

Originally Posted by -Astral-

whats the point of being a member here when no one answers your post
no one gives a **** anymore whats the point of this forums if members dont support you
i posted a post about my abuse i have emotions and its upsetting
and seeing that no one gives a **** about me
should i go should i just go and die somewhere ?
maybe i should just disappear

-Astral,

we do care here on the forum. all of us do. very deeply.

it's a very big forum with lots and lots of posts, and sometimes the messages get buried in the pages

please stay

((((hugs)))))

[seeker33]

Astral, I'm so sorry! This has to hurt a lot! When you cry for help see so many posts here but no one responds to you! :-( it's terrible, I do care and others here as well, just some sections of the forum are rather quiet and not many people read them. There's also time difference which affects the speed of responses.
Please stay here with us.

Astral I care, when did you post? I wasn't stable enough yesterday to be able to support anyone but I can listen today if you need someone to listen

[amandalouise]

Astral...Im about to say something that may be hard for you to hear but please hear me out....

my first reaction to your thread (this one here) was a knee jerk one so last night I did not make a reply here.

today I feel i need to ask you a question....

which would you rather have....

someone posting from their heart something that they took the time to think about, that shows they went through what you have and they understand and want to help you.

or

someone posting to you and your other thread out of obligation because they have felt manipulated due to threat of you leaving and dying.

or people not posting to you because you threatened to leave and die.

thats how i felt last night, I felt manipulated. I had taken the time to write a post and think about what I wanted to post to you in your other thread but hadnt posted it yet, because I was still thinking about your very long post.

but then when posts didnt appear on the boards in your thread right away or in a timely manner of your time you posted this thread, threatening to leave and die.

Astral I know you are hurting right now and I know you want replies right away, but you have also been here on psych central for 6 years now.

you know that not receiving replies when you think they should be there, is just part of the normal risk we all take when posting, whether its our own thread or post in someone elses thread.

psych central does not have rule or promise that when we post we will get replies or a certain number of replies. and for immediate or crisis help we are supposed to be contacting our own treatment providers.

whether you decide to leave and die well thats up to you, its no reflection on me or others here whether you choose to leave psych central and commit suicide or never come back.

Im sorry but Im going to have to take more time to think about my post for your other thread. I want my post to you, if I decide to post it, to reflect my thoughts and heart not my feelings of posting out of obligation of your threat to leave and die.

I do care about you and other members here, that is as much as anyone can care about a stranger on the internet, with a user name instead of their real names, that we have never met in person. right.

my suggestion is in the meantime while waiting for people to post from their hearts is that if you need immediate help, immediate replies to contact yours or a mental health treatment provider off the computer, they will be able to help you right away where as on the internet sorry to say you have to be patient and people will reply to you like they have the past 6 years, at their own pace and time.

I do understand depression, having been severely depressed in 2012 and trying to fight off another depressive episode this year

Can you post the link to your thread and I'll try to help if I can

[katydid777]

Originally Posted by -Astral-

whats the point of being a member here when no one answers your post
no one gives a **** anymore whats the point of this forums if members dont support you
i posted a post about my abuse i have emotions and its upsetting
and seeing that no one gives a **** about me
should i go should i just go and die somewhere ?
maybe i should just disappear

I am so sorry I haven't commentated on your post on the 14th. Other than my MH issues, I have several physical issues, and for the last several days I haven't felt too great, and I haven't been on. I did comment on your post from the 14th. I don't know how much I can help, but I am a good listener, if you need to vent. And sometimes I come up with some good ideas. I wish I were able to take your pain away, but I can support you as much as I am able, and you are always welcome to message me!!!

[Taylor27]

Im so sorry you feel this way. Hugs. Sometimes people are not online or are too busy. This is a very big forum. Im sure no one is ingoring your posts. Please do keep reaching out people do care here. Also with it being summer people are on holidays. Also when im in a deep depression i tend to not post very much just read. I hope you feel better today hugs

I think I found your thread, Astral, and if it's the right one I responded to it to help in the only way I can

[-Astral-]

Am sorry maybe i shouldnt have posted this i just feeling bad , my life is hard at the moment i dont mean to make you all feel manipulated maybe i should just not say anything my mental health problems are bad at this moment i am not stable last friday i went missing and ended up at the bus station with my pj on the police where called and i had to go to the crisis team but they sent me home with meds i need a meds change the ones am on now arnt helping at all the crisis team dont seem to care my psych dont seem to care about my mental health i feel like am worthless

[katydid777]

Originally Posted by -Astral-

Am sorry maybe i shouldnt have posted this i just feeling bad , my life is hard at the moment i dont mean to make you all feel manipulated maybe i should just not say anything my mental health problems are bad at this moment i am not stable last friday i went missing and ended up at the bus station with my pj on the police where called and i had to go to the crisis team but they sent me home with meds i need a meds change the ones am on now arnt helping at all the crisis team dont seem to care my psych dont seem to care about my mental health i feel like am worthless

I think you should post when you need to chat, or vent. You just need to be a little patient with others to comment on your post. Sometimes other people are not on to read your post, but would give you support, and comment if they were, and some others are thinking about what they will say, and even others don't know what to say. But when you come to this site and post, as I have found out, people here truely do want to give you support, and help if they can!!!

[seeker33]

You're not worthless, I do care about you, even though I don't know you but no one should struggle alone, please keep us updated and feel free to vent whenever you need.
We here can't help you much practically, but we can listen. You see how many people responded to you now. And no, I didn't feel manipulated at all. I felt that you're genuinely suffering and I didn't know you posted here so I went to check your post. It was because I cared. I can't offer any advice, I just genuinely wanted to let you know that someone has read your post and feels for you.

[Taylor27]

I care about you and you are not worthless. Please feel free to vent anytime you need that is what psych central is here for. Lots of people here do care about each other sometimes it takes time to get replies. I did not feel manipulated from your post. I also read your post and replied to it. Hugs again

[-Astral-]

thank you
sorry for my rant

Originally Posted by amandalouise

Astral...Im about to say something that may be hard for you to hear but please hear me out....

my first reaction to your thread (this one here) was a knee jerk one so last night I did not make a reply here.

today I feel i need to ask you a question....

which would you rather have....

someone posting from their heart something that they took the time to think about, that shows they went through what you have and they understand and want to help you.

or

someone posting to you and your other thread out of obligation because they have felt manipulated due to threat of you leaving and dying.

or people not posting to you because you threatened to leave and die.

thats how i felt last night, I felt manipulated. I had taken the time to write a post and think about what I wanted to post to you in your other thread but hadnt posted it yet, because I was still thinking about your very long post.

but then when posts didnt appear on the boards in your thread right away or in a timely manner of your time you posted this thread, threatening to leave and die.

Astral I know you are hurting right now and I know you want replies right away, but you have also been here on psych central for 6 years now.

you know that not receiving replies when you think they should be there, is just part of the normal risk we all take when posting, whether its our own thread or post in someone elses thread.

psych central does not have rule or promise that when we post we will get replies or a certain number of replies. and for immediate or crisis help we are supposed to be contacting our own treatment providers.

whether you decide to leave and die well thats up to you, its no reflection on me or others here whether you choose to leave psych central and commit suicide or never come back.

Im sorry but Im going to have to take more time to think about my post for your other thread. I want my post to you, if I decide to post it, to reflect my thoughts and heart not my feelings of posting out of obligation of your threat to leave and die.

I do care about you and other members here, that is as much as anyone can care about a stranger on the internet, with a user name instead of their real names, that we have never met in person. right.

my suggestion is in the meantime while waiting for people to post from their hearts is that if you need immediate help, immediate replies to contact yours or a mental health treatment provider off the computer, they will be able to help you right away where as on the internet sorry to say you have to be patient and people will reply to you like they have the past 6 years, at their own pace and time.

The way I read Astral was that he/she was triggered and upset, I see your point though.

[sabby]

-Astral-

I totally understand how you were feeling and I'm sorry you were in that spot. It was good that you could let us know how you were feeling. There are so many different reasons why members may not have responded in the time you had hoped they would. We do have to take into consideration that most of us do have our own mental health issues we are dealing with just like you. That can mean they just can't respond at the moment, not that they didn't want to.

If by chance you were also looking at the number of views and wondering why folks were responding, if you posted in an open forum, then they can be accessed in "read only" mode via a search engine. That means anyone on the net can read your post but can't respond.

If you find yourself feeling this way again, please remind yourself to breathe. Slow deep breathing in thru your nose and slow release thru your mouth can really help with anxiety and just to help bring us back down from the ceiling. Take a break, take a shower, get a cup of tea, take a nap, watch a funny program on tv, go for a walk, bake a cake, you get the drift. Breathe and take care of yourself as best you can.

If you wish to continue discussing your feelings, you are welcome to post in the Depression forum or the Dealing with Emotions forum. At this time, I'm going to close this thread.