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Default Nov 07, 2019 at 08:47 PM
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In light of the current conversation about turning off the mention option, and DocJohn telling there is no option to do that at this time, how about we set up two lists?

You can read the thread here: Is there a way to turn off the mentions list?

If you want people to add the @mention option to your name, please post to this thread.

I'll go post the Please Don't Mention Me right now.

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Default Nov 07, 2019 at 08:53 PM
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Please mention me @Lilly2
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Members can mention the Skeezyks if they so choose. Since I don't subscribe to most of the posts I reply to, if someone comments on one of my replies, the only way I'm likely to see it is if they mention me.

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 02:15 AM
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I think Doc John does an amazing job offering us a free safe place to find info and support.

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 09:03 AM
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While this is a good idea in theory, there's no requirement, nor will we make one, that a member has to check these lists before using this feature. While I don't mind people posting their preference to one of these threads, such a preference shouldn't be mistaken for a requirement. Members are free to use or not use the mention feature at their discretion.

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 10:24 AM
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it needs to be aded in to your profile settings.

you know you got your: other members sending you email yes or no, get private messages yes or no, why not mentions
it would be great to turn it off if you didn't want it.
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It doesn't matter to me, since I can use the "subscription" button (at the top right side of our screens) or my profile's links to "threads" or "posts" by me.

And, if anyone wants me to reply to a specific thread that I may have forgotten because I have like 200 give-or-take subscriptions, they can PM or message me.

I handle the "to-do PC list" by taking one manageable thread at a time, or one manageable mention at a time. We have freedom to answer, check, respond, or not respond, so I take that freedom and enjoy it. When I'm not in a good or "awake" place to respond, I wait until I am. And I understand when people cannot, for whatever reason, respond to my posts or threads or PMs or mentions or anything. It's totally okay; no obligation required on my part. I'm not too worried, because we have freedoms in place to choose or not choose, and that freedom is cool for all different likes, dislikes, preferences, etc. I like the freedom to choose, and to be my authentic self. I try to remember what other people's boundaries are, but my brain is limited on what I can remember, so I may make mistakes sometimes, even with the best of intentions (spoken or unspoken, known or unknown).

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 11:21 AM
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I'm okay with being mentioned

But I'll stop using the feature, so as not to intrude.
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 11:21 AM
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In light of the current conversation about turning off the mention option, and DocJohn telling there is no option to do that at this time, how about we set up two lists?

You can read the thread here: Is there a way to turn off the mentions list?

If you want people to add the @mention option to your name, please post to this thread.

I'll go post the Please Don't Mention Me right now.

Thank you!!
I do not use mentions when I am posting to someone. there actually is no need for it in my opinion.

Psych central already has "reply with Quotes"

this automatically puts who a person is replying to or talking to in a quote box (like my post to you)

my point people already know when someone is posting to them by seeing the post quoted.

So I never even bothered trying to figure out the mentions option.

Instead I just continue using the reply with quote and leave it up to other members to read or not read my post when they are reading threads.

my problem with this is that in some ways this mentions option can get people accidentally breaking or on purpose circumventing the ignore feature.

whats the first thing that happens when someone suddenly finds out they are on someones ignore list? they try and find a way past that. they cant post in that persons threads and they cant pm that person so sometimes they post in someone elses thread naming the poster that has them on ignore..

example say I have jane dow (made up name) on ignore, Jane dow goes to one of my threads discovers they cant post to me. makes a reply in someone elses thread and directs their reply to me. they have broke the do not circumvent the ignore list rules. same with jane dow making her own thread and using mentions directing her post to me. which is breaking the do not circumvent the ignore list rules.

Same thing can happen accidentally because no one knows who has put them on ignore. with an added trigger. Jane dow doesn't know shes on my ignore list, mentions me in a post, I get triggered by the notification that someone on my ignore list has mentioned me in their own thread, not only did they accidentally circumvent the ignore list but also needlessly caused another member to be triggered.

therefore when the mentions option first became available I did not even bother using it or planned to use it.
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 11:28 AM
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@DocJohn

Of course, I understand that. Honestly, I had no expectation of that. I am simply using the resources at hand to try to make it easier since there is such a divide on the mention option. And some of my friends don't like the mention which I didn't know.

So, my hope is to simply provide a thread where folks can state their preference. I hope the two threads will be helpful.

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 11:28 AM
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I am ok with it too!

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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 01:18 PM
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I would like the @mention option
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 02:02 PM
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In light of the current conversation about turning off the mention option, and DocJohn telling there is no option to do that at this time, how about we set up two lists?

You can read the thread here: Is there a way to turn off the mentions list?

If you want people to add the @mention option to your name, please post to this thread.

I'll go post the Please Don't Mention Me right now.

Thank you!!
That a great idea
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Default Nov 09, 2019 at 03:12 AM
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I like the mention option.

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