Opened up to my mom

MtnTime2896 · 11:45 PM

I opened up to my mom today about how I feel towards my dad. I used the song "Let You Down" by NF to do so. Slowly, I'm trying to trust and open up more to her. After the song was done, she hugged me and told me she was sorry that she doesn't step in to keep my dad of my back. I told her it was okay and that I didn't blame her for that.

(Possibly triggering)

Possible trigger:

I mean, my dad has only ever laid hands on me three times and none severe or recent, but he does scare the **** out of me. Like, he just rages and it's so ****ing frightening.

Anyway, she told me she loved me and she wants to have a talk with my dad. I told her not to but she seems dead set on it. I just don't want it to make things worse, you know? Regardless, I'm glad her and I have a real relationship now and have worked through all of the past's crap. The fact that I can open up to her about things now is something I never knew I needed. I know not everyone has that opportunity, so I don't want to take it for granted.

Just thought I'd share that. I'm starting trauma therapy in two or three weeks, and I'm nervous but I'm ready to put the past in the past.

Candy1955 · Jul 27, 2018 at 09:39 PM

So raw, the way you describe your talk with your mom. Thank you for sharing that. I am happy for you. Stay strong.

Wild Coyote · Jul 28, 2018 at 01:02 AM

I am so glad you could talk with your mom. It seems like a start in the right direction, toward healing. I do hope you find healing.

WC

Jul 28, 2018 at 05:28 AM

It's good you can tell your mom how you feel. Your mom cannot manage the relationship between you and your dad but if she tries--this is on her--you are not responsible for your parent's relationship. Good luck with your therapy. Hugs.

MtnTime2896 · 04:17 PM

Thanks everyone.

My parents aren't together, they haven't been since I was in elementary school. She might've talked to him this morning because my dad wanted us to talk, he said he just wanted to know about me and what I've been up to. It might not last, but it was a nice break from the usual lectures.

I really do appreciate all of the support I've received here. I never would've been able to get to this point without PC. All of you have helped me through things I still haven't expressed anywhere else, so thank you for being a part of this online sanctuary.

cptsdwhoa · Jul 28, 2018 at 05:31 PM

I'm so happy for you and that you could have this moment! I hope that this is just the beginning of a beautiful recovery.

Unrigged64072835 · Jul 30, 2018 at 03:33 PM

Hope things are going better for you.

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Candy1955 Veteran Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: USA Posts: 605 6 495 hugs given	Jul 27, 2018 at 09:39 PM #2 So raw, the way you describe your talk with your mom. Thank you for sharing that. I am happy for you. Stay strong.
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Wild Coyote Legendary Community Liaison Member Since Jun 2016 Location: USA Posts: 12,735 (SuperPoster!) 7 70.9k hugs given	Jul 28, 2018 at 01:02 AM #3 I am so glad you could talk with your mom. It seems like a start in the right direction, toward healing. I do hope you find healing. WC __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths.
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Anonymous55879 Guest Posts: n/a	Jul 28, 2018 at 05:28 AM #4 It's good you can tell your mom how you feel. Your mom cannot manage the relationship between you and your dad but if she tries--this is on her--you are not responsible for your parent's relationship. Good luck with your therapy. Hugs.
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cptsdwhoa Veteran Member Member Since Jul 2018 Location: Somewhere in the 1990s Posts: 748 5 441 hugs given	Jul 28, 2018 at 05:31 PM #6 I'm so happy for you and that you could have this moment! I hope that this is just the beginning of a beautiful recovery.
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Unrigged64072835 Legendary Member Since Oct 2010 Location: Under the noise floor Posts: 18,579 (SuperPoster!) 13 11.8k hugs given	Jul 30, 2018 at 03:33 PM #7 Hope things are going better for you.
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