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Heart Oct 04, 2018 at 08:01 AM
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After having had a confrontation and being very hurt by a family member, ending with me having a meltdown and depression that has lasted nearly a week now, I just gave my immediate family a group text. In it I explained what I need from them, which is a show of empathy and protection or an explaination of why I am underserving of it. They responded they would abide moving forward. Here’s hoping should I fall into it again, they will have my back and actually show they care. I don’t even care if they fake it. Let them just give me some support in hopes of controlling this emotional disorder. Is it possible simple, honest communication can get my needs met?

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There’s always a possibility, here’s hoping 🤞🏻 My core family couldn’t understand my illness at first but after years seeing me suffering and witnessing my fight against it, they became my biggest supporters now. Sending hugs

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Kudos to you for being able to be open and honest with them about your needs. I hope all goes well and you're able to get the support you need.
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I think putting the emphasis on supporting each other as a thing that family members do is a great idea.
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Heart Oct 09, 2018 at 11:56 AM
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I think it's a great idea to send a message to your family, outlining your needs.

I hope things start looking up soon!


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My asking for what I need, once again, did not work. They won’t even fake empathy. More tears, every night now. I’m not going to be satisfied until I push everybody away.

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Tonight was a little better. He was open and supportive. I apologized for reeling over the family rift as I have. My mood is swinging like crazy. I’m wearing myself out. It’s getting better each day.

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Great job! really brave of you being assertive about your needs. I hope they'll be understanding

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I’ve come through the horrible family rift in my own mind and am feeling better. I was the only one who made the effort to make peace. That’s how it’s always been. I say ‘in my own mind’ because the act of my niece refriending me and my calling my mother and acting like nothing happened gives me a sense of relief from the extreme depression I suffered this past month over this.

As far as the actual family rift, it is what it is. They truly have no empathy for me. Over something as stupid as a difference of political opinion, they want nothing to do with me. They really did ‘disown’ me and never called me again. They didn’t call for a month, and I doubt they ever would. My mother, dad, and sister truly wrote me off over nothing. That’s how little I mean to them.

My kids were told of what happened because I want their empathy and for them to see the family as they truly are. I have no issues with my kids.

My husband who has no empathy and no traits of ‘defender’ took no actions to help until he had to hear me cry and ***** about it for a month, finally getting through to him about the effort he could have taken to help, which he finally did. So, yeah, I had to manipulate him. But, ultimately that eased my suffering because it got my niece to just refriend me and end this.

It’s unfathomable to me why my whole family didn’t act the way I would think a family is supposed to act, to have said to my niece that unfriending her very emotionally unstable aunt over BS was a bad thing to do and just undo it. But, mine is a truly uncaring, mean family and that’s why they don’t have my back. They really don’t even like me. That’s why.

So, I’m glad that’s over for my sake. I don’t want to get into it with anyone over anything again. I’ll stay away.

It appears that we are at peace. But, really we are estranged. I’ll never forget this hurt.

From here on out, my immediate family will not need to show any empathy to me or defend me because I’ll stay away from conflict.

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