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Default Nov 11, 2018 at 01:12 AM
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Hi, everyone!
As a survivor of childhood emotional abuse, I find that I need hugs and touch all day.
How can I give that touch to myself?

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Default Nov 11, 2018 at 07:23 AM
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You may have to step out of your comfort zone. Try giving others compliments to others so that they compliment you back. Consider them verbal hugs.
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Default Nov 12, 2018 at 12:13 AM
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Thanks for the idea!
I'll try it out tomorrow!

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Default Nov 14, 2018 at 12:49 AM
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Do you have a pet? Pets can help.
Personally I was very deprived of touch... and then I had a child. They touch ALL. THE. TIME. It was way too much touch for me. But what can you do. Children need touch and love and hugs.

By the way, I am not recommending having a baby to fulfil your need for touch.

But I will say that it cured me of mine. .
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Default Nov 14, 2018 at 02:48 AM
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I have a teddy bear and I wrap up in blankets and diapers. (Seems strange I know).

I have heard good things about weighted blankets and their effect on those who have PTSD. Have you tried them?

Obviously the best thing is to be wrapped in warm embrace with someone you trust, but not everyone has the luxury of having someone in our lives to offer this.

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Default Nov 16, 2018 at 09:24 AM
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Put your loving arms around yourself and hug tightly for more then 7 seconds. Practice other self love techniques. Look after yourself, support your valid feelings and believe in yourself.

You are so worthwhile rebeka. Much love to you from someone who knows the struggles you face.
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I've found that gently patting or rubbing my arm (or tummy) while speaking gently and soothingly to my inner child helps me - especially when I'm really struggling or overwhelmed by strong emotions.

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Default Nov 18, 2018 at 02:49 PM
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It's tough if you're single and live alone or with roommates who are not the huggy-touchy-feely-type! I have a very soft fleece blanket and sometimes when I'm watching TV I'll run it up and down my arms or neck.
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