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Old 03-02-2019, 10:55 AM #1
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About a dozen years ago, I took a job with a law firm. I was warned by a co-worker that the senior partner would mistreat/abuse me, fire me and then make sure that I never got another job. I was overworked and there was sexual harassment too. And they fired me for refusing to sleep with a friend of theirs they had hired who was a narcissistic mooch - someone who did not like to work or to pay rent and wanted to move in with me claiming they were in love when, in fact, we had never had a date or sex - just occasional office conversations. The psychopath wanted to fire the mooch's lazy butt but has never forgiven me for refusing to take in her friend even though it was under false pretenses. She calls my employers and tells lies - she lies about everything - and she enjoys lying and mistreating people more than anything.

Well, I've gotten other jobs but none have made me permanent. I have had to remove my work history from Linked-In as it appears the psychopath has been following it and contacting my employers - including my current one - behind my back. My physical and mental health has suffered terribly.

How do you deal with this? It has been going on for 12 years. I have been suffering from C-PTSD and need some relief.
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About a dozen years ago, I took a job with a law firm. I was warned by a co-worker that the senior partner would mistreat/abuse me, fire me and then make sure that I never got another job. I was overworked and there was sexual harassment too. And they fired me for refusing to sleep with a friend of theirs they had hired who was a narcissistic mooch - someone who did not like to work or to pay rent and wanted to move in with me claiming they were in love when, in fact, we had never had a date or sex - just occasional office conversations. The psychopath wanted to fire the mooch's lazy butt but has never forgiven me for refusing to take in her friend even though it was under false pretenses. She calls my employers and tells lies - she lies about everything - and she enjoys lying and mistreating people more than anything.

Well, I've gotten other jobs but none have made me permanent. I have had to remove my work history from Linked-In as it appears the psychopath has been following it and contacting my employers - including my current one - behind my back. My physical and mental health has suffered terribly.

How do you deal with this? It has been going on for 12 years. I have been suffering from C-PTSD and need some relief.
how do I handle stalking and such the likes that you posted...I go to the police and make an official statement, then they investigate and arrest/ prosecute.

here in the USA what you post this boss / ex boss person has done /is doing to you is many crimes (harrassment, stalking, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, if this homeless friend of the boss is an illegal immigrant theres more crimes there too against both the immigrant and the boss trying to force you to let their friend move in with you in exchange for sex. theres also human trafficking that this boss can be prosecuted on....

my suggestion is go to your nearest police department or call your police department or if they have a texting service text them and an officer will take your statement, and do an official investigation. given time has passed since you worked for this person the ex boss wont be prepared for an investigation. by the way there is no statute of limitations on something ongoing like this in the USA. right now is a great time to report the sexual harassment and such because of the hash tag metoo movement and how employers are getting in hot water by celebs coming forwards. my point its very much on the police to do right by victims right now, they are working very hard to on abuse cases and reports right now because of how its in the news, on social media, its everywhere out in the open now and here in america this (abuses by employers) is something that is no longer acceptable. new laws protocols and so on are being done every day to stop this kind of thing.

please consider contacting your police and making a report against this ex boss. if he is doing this to you, then he is most likely doing this to others. your report and the police investigating can be saving another besides helping you too.
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Hi LifelongLoner,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. This abuse needs to stop. I would contact a lawyer and sue them for this but that may not be possible and I also understand that. But there are publically run organizations that can help you. Are you in counseling? If so talk to them maybe they can help. I hope this helps...

If you need to talk feel free to contact me...

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There are stalking laws to protect you. If you had acted immediately, this could have been a felony charge against her soon.
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There are stalking laws to protect you. If you had acted immediately, this could have been a felony charge against her soon.
I have contacted the authorities but they did not want to get involved. Apparently, it is very hard to prosecute a psychopath because they lie about everything.
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I have contacted the authorities but they did not want to get involved. Apparently, it is very hard to prosecute a psychopath because they lie about everything.
So sorry to hear that. Gather as much evidence as you can. Document everything. Previous employers could even be subpoenaed to testify that they received untruthful reports from the psychopath. Read up on the relevant laws in your state. Contact psychopath’s bar association for advice.
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you Lifelongloner.

Can you find a lawyer and sue this person? They should be disbarred at the very least.
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How do you deal with this? It has been going on for 12 years. I have been suffering from C-PTSD and need some relief.
Go to the Bar. There are ethics standards and if true, this would be unethical behavior.
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Attorneys are very expensive. And, it is a risky proposition at best to prove guilt. On the other hand, baseball bats are cheap!
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Attorneys are very expensive. And, it is a risky proposition at best to prove guilt. On the other hand, baseball bats are cheap!
Some attorneys only get paid if you win, and the payment comes from your “winnings.” Baseball bats are cheap, but criminal assault records are not.
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