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Default May 26, 2019 at 09:41 AM
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As a Complex PTSD sufferer, I hope this is the right place for this discussion.

As the title says, I can't start a conversation because I don't know what triggers people's rage when I talk to them. I try to imitate the speech patterns and topic that get good reactions when they say them to each other, but when I say them they get enraged at random. It is statistically provable that this follows no pattern; this is not a case of me failing to learn the pattern but instead there being no pattern and I'm painfully cognizant of that.

I have no place in society because everyone hates me and they keep changing the rules as to why. I can't obey the rules to get the good responses because they keep changing them out of spite, just to keep me out of their groups and hold dominance over me. They use their social dominance to keep me out of jobs and keep me un-believed when I report their assaults. Their constant rules-changing represents a wild goose-chase they will never let me win so they exhaust my resources and then take advantage of me with ease.

I just want to be accepted. I'm just tired of being rejected to amuse people.

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Default May 27, 2019 at 07:18 AM
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I'm sorry this is happening, and hope posting here helps a little bit

we're accepting of you- not much I know but it's something
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Default May 28, 2019 at 12:18 AM
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The answer to that is quite simple: be pleasant. Speak about pleasant topics. When others comment or ask questions, respond in a pleasant manner with pleasant words and pleasant affect. If you try that consistently you will begin to see people responding differently to you.

If you try that with everyone you meet and don't feel that a single person responds in a nice way, I recommend that you consult with a doctor because you may be experiencing paranoia and psychosis. Those are real problems and can be addressed by medical professionals.

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Default May 28, 2019 at 05:06 AM
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What does your doctor suggest?

Typically people won’t go into rage when discussing innocent small talk topics (avoid politics) like movies, local events, weather, travel, tv shows, hobbies, what restaurants to eat and what gym to exercise at

I personally don’t particularly enjoy small talk but until you know people well it’s safer to not dive too deep.

Does your doctor or therapist have any opinion on
why everyone randomly rages at you? And have you seen one recently?
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Default May 28, 2019 at 09:20 PM
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What does your doctor suggest?
My doctors haven't suggested anything. They don't know why people are behaving this way.

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Typically people won’t go into rage when discussing innocent small talk topics (avoid politics) like movies, local events, weather, travel, tv shows, hobbies, what restaurants to eat and what gym to exercise at
Nothing is typical about my life. I can't even get into small talk; people get bothered by my presence as soon as they sense it.

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Does your doctor or therapist have any opinion on why everyone randomly rages at you? And have you seen one recently?
I haven't seen one since my terminal diagnosis. Despite a chance occurrence where one of my therapists managed to witness one of these rage events firsthand, they still don't know what's going on. I was told that, if this were a single occurrence, that the other person would seem to be suffering a schizophrenic break; but since this seems to be triggered by my presence they don't really know what's going on.

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Default May 29, 2019 at 06:24 PM
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I hope posting here helps a bit. People here are pretty accepting.

If anyone rejects you to amuse themselves that is extremely uncool.. to put it politely. I’m sorry I’m not much help but just wanted you to know I read your post.

I don’t personally enjoy most small talk much usually either.

Many people enjoy talking about music, films, books etc.

It’s probably safer to talk about neutral or positive topics if you don’t know the person, their triggers etc. Politics I avoid talking about.

Has a doctor or therapist given an opinion?

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