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Default Dec 19, 2019 at 07:49 AM
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If I choose and train myself to not see my trigger situation as a threat, maybe I won’t get triggered. It isn’t a physical threat. It is something I can choose to distract myself from and simply walk away from.

I can tell myself in the moment, “This is not a threat. Don’t panic.”

I can’t completely get away from the trigger (because I live with the person who does it and it’s an intimacy issue). But I can choose to accept that we do not share real intimacy. It isn’t the kind of relationship it is supposed to be. It is what it is. I’ll distract myself and walk away instead of getting sad, mad, hysterical, etc... going off.

No threat. No joy. Just acceptance and find something else to fulfill my mind and spirit.

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Acceptance is the key.
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I hope that works for you.
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I hope it works for you too.
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Well, it’s a work in progress. I know what my triggers are. Now to avoid them.

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Friends put on the Disney movie Coco last night and I couldn’t take more than 20 minutes of it before I lost it and burst out crying. We had to leave their house. It was embarrassing. They know my situation with my son so they understand. It was too triggering for me to handle. I can’t watch hardly any movies now. They are always about the issues that have caused me trauma, except in the movie the people act lovingly and happy ending.

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