advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
DarkMagician
Member
DarkMagician has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2019
Location: USA
Posts: 49
3 yr Member
Default Dec 09, 2019 at 03:06 PM
  #1
That is all. Or they're just extremely looked down upon.
DarkMagician is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, Discombobulated, Open Eyes
 
Thanks for this!
LilyMop, Skeezyks

advertisement
Skeezyks
Disreputable Old Troll
 
Skeezyks's Avatar
Skeezyks has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2015
Location: The Star of the North
Posts: 32,762 (SuperPoster!)
8 yr Member
17.4k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 09, 2019 at 03:16 PM
  #2
Yes. I believe this is absolutely true. I've sometimes thought they could smell it on me! But I suppose it was, perhaps, just the way I interacted with others. Somehow they always knew I was an easy target.

__________________
"I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last)
Skeezyks is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, Discombobulated
LilyMop
Veteran Member
 
LilyMop's Avatar
LilyMop Hoping
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: U.S.
Posts: 709
3 yr Member
81 hugs
given
Default Dec 09, 2019 at 03:55 PM
  #3
That’s an interesting observation. I suppose it is related to our culture. Strength and success is highly valued. Generally speaking, qualities like extroversion are considered “healthy” and introversion is considered a problem. Anything that doesn’t look like confidence and success is kind of shunned in many social environments.
LilyMop is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated
Stellata
Member
 
Stellata's Avatar
Stellata is emerging from the shadows.
 
Member Since: Sep 2018
Location: London area UK
Posts: 152
5 yr Member
29 hugs
given
Default Dec 09, 2019 at 04:02 PM
  #4
It's hard isn't it?
Hate is such a strong word though.
I sense big reactions from strangers in public when my insecurity is really strong, but possibly because I get agitated with it.
Stellata is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated
Discombobulated
Grand Magnate
 
Discombobulated's Avatar
Discombobulated has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 4,643 (SuperPoster!)
3 yr Member
11.5k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 09, 2019 at 04:19 PM
  #5
I think that might be true of some people, not all however.
Discombobulated is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist
 
Thanks for this!
mote.of.soul, WovenGalaxy
eskielover
Legendary Wise Elder
 
eskielover's Avatar
eskielover has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 24,701 (SuperPoster!)
15 yr Member
14.5k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 10, 2019 at 01:36 AM
  #6
My mother was very insecure. Obviously I didn't hate her, but her behaviors were a bit difficult to deal with most of my life. It initially rubbed off on me but I got my validation & built up my own level of secure feelings outside of my family.

I don't think that "hate" is really the appropriate word. I think that we usually feel uncomfortable around insecurity & sometimes it is a challenge to respect especially if their behavior effects us in a negative way.....but that doesn't EQUATE to "hate"

__________________


Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
eskielover is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated, Open Eyes, Stellata
Anonymous42019
Magnate
 
Anonymous42019's Avatar
Anonymous42019 VOID
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 2,406
3 yr Member
3,106 hugs
given
Default Dec 10, 2019 at 05:57 AM
  #7
The word "hate" is as destructive as it is powerful, but my experience of the use of this negative word has largely come from social media. Social media attracts all types, and often those who feel insecure and are brave enough to admit it, often find themselves victimised by those who are intolerant, who are cyber bullies and are highly critical.

The only way to avoid such is to block these people, and find an online site that can help build up those with lack of self-esteem. I find PC here to be a great place for those who feel insecure and find life difficult to cope. Our community is highly supportive and offers kindness and help to those in such need. Long may PC continue.

__________________






Anonymous42019 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, eskielover
 
Thanks for this!
bpcyclist, Discombobulated, LilyMop, Stellata
bpcyclist
Legendary
 
bpcyclist's Avatar
bpcyclist has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: Portland
Posts: 12,681 (SuperPoster!)
3 yr Member
40.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 10, 2019 at 12:21 PM
  #8
I do believe that those who are perceived to be insecure sometimes bring out the worst in those with a predatory instincts. This is again why I am not a fan of social media. Noone has to admit up front as they join that they are a bully. They just join and then you have to deal with them.

__________________
When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield
bpcyclist is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
LilyMop
DarkMagician
Member
DarkMagician has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2019
Location: USA
Posts: 49
3 yr Member
Default Dec 11, 2019 at 12:17 AM
  #9
I'm just feeling crazy man. I don't know what to do. I worry about myself.
DarkMagician is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
annoyedgrunt84, Discombobulated, Open Eyes
 
Thanks for this!
annoyedgrunt84
annoyedgrunt84
Veteran Member
 
annoyedgrunt84's Avatar
annoyedgrunt84 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2014
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 720
8 yr Member
634 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 16, 2019 at 12:37 AM
  #10
Put 3 people in a room and 2 of them will make a pariah out of the 3rd within 10 minutes.

__________________
"We can hear the night watchman click his flashlight ask himself if it's him or them that's insane"- Bob Dylan

20 mg Citalopram
annoyedgrunt84 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
mote.of.soul
Mad Walker
 
mote.of.soul's Avatar
mote.of.soul Act not the goat
 
Member Since: Jan 2018
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 13,041 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
21.9k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 16, 2019 at 02:57 AM
  #11
To me, to have great dislike of someone for being insecure is itself an insecurity, or some kind of personality disorder. It must be! It's certainly not healthy.
mote.of.soul is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated, Open Eyes, WovenGalaxy
Anonymous44430
Guest
Anonymous44430 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Dec 18, 2019 at 02:55 PM
  #12
Quote:
Originally Posted by Skeezyks View Post
Yes. I believe this is absolutely true. I've sometimes thought they could smell it on me! But I suppose it was, perhaps, just the way I interacted with others. Somehow they always knew I was an easy target.
I do not believe it can be smelt but it can be seen in the way people move and act. Confidence is in your walk and your talk and the way you stand and hold yourself and probably noticed unconsciously. So is lack of it. I went to a healer once. The second i saw him i knew it was a waste. he was leaning on the bed* you lie on. Confident people don't lean.

*for massage dont know the word
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
mote.of.soul
WovenGalaxy
Magnate
 
WovenGalaxy's Avatar
WovenGalaxy has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: Earth
Posts: 2,850
3 yr Member
4,835 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 18, 2019 at 09:14 PM
  #13
Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkMagician View Post
That is all. Or they're just extremely looked down upon.
I disagree with such black and white thinking. However I'm sorry this has been your experience. I hope you feel better soon.
WovenGalaxy is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
mote.of.soul
WovenGalaxy
Magnate
 
WovenGalaxy's Avatar
WovenGalaxy has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: Earth
Posts: 2,850
3 yr Member
4,835 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 18, 2019 at 09:16 PM
  #14
Quote:
Originally Posted by mote.of.soul View Post
To me, to have great dislike of someone for being insecure is itself an insecurity, or some kind of personality disorder. It must be! It's certainly not healthy.
WovenGalaxy is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
mote.of.soul
eskielover
Legendary Wise Elder
 
eskielover's Avatar
eskielover has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 24,701 (SuperPoster!)
15 yr Member
14.5k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 18, 2019 at 10:00 PM
  #15
Animals sense insecurity or fear in people. Horses especially. I have handled abused stallions & when I walked into the stall of one of them he have me a horsey kiss. It was instant bonding. Even my wild raccoons can sense I have no fear of them & they come right up to me for their food. In the case of animals I think they respond to someone insecure in a negative way because they are uncertain how that insecure or fearful person will react.

I saw & experienced how my mom & dad's insecurities negatively effected my childhood & it was not pleasant to be around. We always think of how we are being treated because of what we are like but hardly ever think of how we are like effects others especially if it is in a negative way. Doesn't mean it is hate.....but it can mean they just don't enjoy being around that personality or it makes them feel uncomfortable

__________________


Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
eskielover is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
mote.of.soul
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:39 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.