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Old 01-23-2019, 05:46 AM #11
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I'm so sorry, Ljj7000 Unfortunatelu negative feelings are hard to deal with. I agree with HopefullyLost1211 that meditation could be useful.
I agree with this as well. Meditation can be really helpful if you are struggling with negative feelings. I have been doing it for a little while and my experiece may be different, but after practicing for a few days, I really started to see a difference in my life. After a few weeks, I would feel a lot better right after my sessions. I hope you consider giving it a shot.
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I feel invisible sometimes. Iíll go through the day feeling generally left out... at work and whatnot... and then Iíll go online and post things and feel the same way. Itís a lonely feeling. I get that youíre wanting to make changes in your mental health and well being. I am too and sometimes I just donít know where to start... or Iím just busy and tired and burned out and frustrated...
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Sorry this has happened to you. I can completely understand why you're upset. Dealing with something like this right now myself.

Something that sometimes helps me is a sort of Buddhist technique where you hold still with the feeling - don't think, just the feeling - and neither fight against it nor engage with it. Realize your feelings are a part of your self and try to embrace and comfort yourself as if you were a hurting child.

Eventually life will lead you into something else like another task that has to be done, and it will help turn your attention elsewhere.

Repeat as often as necessary until the River sweeps the whole sorry episode downstream.
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Sorry this has happened to you. I can completely understand why you're upset. Dealing with something like this right now myself.

Something that sometimes helps me is a sort of Buddhist technique where you hold still with the feeling - don't think, just the feeling - and neither fight against it nor engage with it. Realize your feelings are a part of your self and try to embrace and comfort yourself as if you were a hurting child.

Eventually, life will lead you into something else like another task that has to be done, and it will help turn your attention elsewhere.

Repeat as often as necessary until the River sweeps the whole sorry episode downstream.
Thanks for this. I know that I'm not the OP but I am planning on giving this a try! Thank you so much.

I am actually waiting in line at the pharmacy and it is taking an ETERNITY! I will give this a shot right now.
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Thanks for this. I know that I'm not the OP but I am planning on giving this a try! Thank you so much.

I am actually waiting in line at the pharmacy and it is taking an ETERNITY! I will give this a shot right now.
You're very welcome, BonsaiGuy. That basic philosophy is from a little book called You Are Here by Thicht Nhat Han (or something like that).

I hope you've finally made it out of the pharmacy by now.
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Do you need external validation? Sometimes when we care a lot about the feedback from others it's because we need validation.

It helps me to have a conversation with the problem. I find that getting to the core of my feelings helps put it to rest.
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Don't bother with them,its just that they haven't evolved to
your level yet,give self pat on back!
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Hey Ljj7000,

Emotions can be a though nut to crack. You are not alone. Here are a few thing I do.

For starters, I define emotions as a reaction in the form of a feeling in response to an event. Something event happens and feelings get triggered. I see a cute puppy and feel happiness. I get smacked in the nose, I feel anger. Emotions just are.

1. I donít have good/bad, negative/positive emotions, I just have emotions. By lumping all emotions into one class, the bring me down emotion (still a classification) hold less power over me, because they are like any other emotion.


2. Iíve come to realize that my emotions are much faster than I am. No matter how fast I run, they always catch up to me, those nasty buggers. Instead, I be with my emotions. If Iíve sad, I recognize it, acknowledge it, and sit with it. It usually only takes a couple of minutes to reduce the power of emotion has over me. Sometimes that process can brutally painful, but I find it to be worth it.

3. My body talks to me. I imagine if you saw someone with the corners of their mouth turned down, youíd say they are sad. I imagine if you saw someone with the corner of their mouth turned up, you'd say they are happy. Those are two examples of the body talking.

Here's some of my body talk:

tight gut - feat anxiety
chest - accomplishment
back of the neck - stress
upper jaw - anger
downturn mouth -sadness
tight checks - alternating between sadness and anger

With body parts; your mileage may vary. Perhaps you emotions will come from a different part of the body. Nothing wrong with that. You may also ask how I got to know my body parts. By just recognizing my body. I would feel anger and my upper jaw would, yet again, be tight. Emotional connected to body part takes continued recognition.

So, if I recognize my upper jaw being tight, I know I'm angry. I can recognize the event that caused to anger. Most importantly, I just be with the emotion. I often say, "Okay, is am angry." I then spend some time with it. The anger is trying to tell me something. Believe it or not, anger is just as much a friend as happiness. Theyíre each just trying to tell me something.


Yeah, emotions are hard. I think society, for the most part, has it wrong. We often learn to seperate and run from our emotions. That just makes us fearful tired. But by befriended our emotions, they can become the teachers they are meant to be.
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