Getting over negative feelings

I'll try to keep this short.

I posted something on reddit but it got no replies and it was downvoted. so that made me upset. I have written my feelings down for the past 3 and a half hours. I did take some breaks. as I'm journaling, more things pop up that seem to bother me. I feel like I'm a loss for how to improve my mental well-being. I feel somewhat hopeless. I still feel motivated.

how do I get over these feelings? I don't want to start this year with negativity like this.

Sorry you are struggling. Have you tried therapy or meditation?

I'm in therapy but I can't see my therapist for a while. I haven't tried meditation yet.

Check out some guided meditation videos on YouTube. You can pick a feeling or thought which is bothering you and choose a video that way.

Meditation is a research-based method for reducing anxiety and depression. The more you repeat, the more effective it is. You can try it morning and night or any time you feel badly. Be well

I swear people go around being nasty on line for some type of sadistic kick sometimes.

I wouldn't dwell too too long on a post but maybe find a different outlet.

I would start by not caring about likes, downvotes or followers.

I can certainly understand you feeling upset about not getting replies. I have been there on other sites, social media sites that is and when I post a comment or something that to me is important and I get no replies or thoughts from others, I get down. I always felt like I was not worth anything based on others lives. This may be what you are feeling inside some. Being positive and feeling like you have worth are two different things and believe me it can be destructive to the mind to think that they are the same. I can tell you that I still struggle with this. Most times I have to tell myself that I am worth a lot and as long as I feel worth something to myself then I am valuable. There are things that you can do that others cannot and there are things that others can do that you can't. Focus on the things that you can, only the things that you can. Find what your talents are and do those things. Share what you know and can do with those and let them share with you. You are not hopeless, you are not worthless, you are worth a lot, you are important. It is awesome that you are still motivated, because that is very hard to maintain and you are maintaining it. Writing a journal is good. I encourage you to continue in that. I have not been able to journal my thoughts so you have an outlet that I have not been able to do. I applaud you for your courage to post this.

Online communities can be tough... I was actually just thinking the other day that this world would be a much better place if we looked at every personal interaction as a real living and breathing person instead of a car on the road, a user on a forum or website, etc.

Well said BonsaiGuy!

I'm so sorry, Ljj7000 Unfortunatelu negative feelings are hard to deal with. I agree with HopefullyLost1211 that meditation could be useful. I'd also suggest to keep journaling, as I think it will help you feel better in the long run. And I also agree with all the others about avoiding social media if you can. Unfortunately it can have pretty bad effects on our mental health. Please don't give up. Things can get better. You won't feel like this forever. I hope you'll be able to see your therapist soon. You can do this! You're strong, I'm sure of that. I hope writing here helps a bit. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Sending many hugs to you

I agree with this as well. Meditation can be really helpful if you are struggling with negative feelings. I have been doing it for a little while and my experiece may be different, but after practicing for a few days, I really started to see a difference in my life. After a few weeks, I would feel a lot better right after my sessions. I hope you consider giving it a shot.

I feel invisible sometimes. I’ll go through the day feeling generally left out... at work and whatnot... and then I’ll go online and post things and feel the same way. It’s a lonely feeling. I get that you’re wanting to make changes in your mental health and well being. I am too and sometimes I just don’t know where to start... or I’m just busy and tired and burned out and frustrated...

Sorry this has happened to you. I can completely understand why you're upset. Dealing with something like this right now myself.

Something that sometimes helps me is a sort of Buddhist technique where you hold still with the feeling - don't think, just the feeling - and neither fight against it nor engage with it. Realize your feelings are a part of your self and try to embrace and comfort yourself as if you were a hurting child.

Eventually life will lead you into something else like another task that has to be done, and it will help turn your attention elsewhere.

Repeat as often as necessary until the River sweeps the whole sorry episode downstream.

Thanks for this. I know that I'm not the OP but I am planning on giving this a try! Thank you so much.

I am actually waiting in line at the pharmacy and it is taking an ETERNITY! I will give this a shot right now.

You're very welcome, BonsaiGuy. That basic philosophy is from a little book called You Are Here by Thicht Nhat Han (or something like that).

I hope you've finally made it out of the pharmacy by now.

Do you need external validation? Sometimes when we care a lot about the feedback from others it's because we need validation.

It helps me to have a conversation with the problem. I find that getting to the core of my feelings helps put it to rest.

Don't bother with them,its just that they haven't evolved to
your level yet,give self pat on back!
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE

Hey Ljj7000,

Emotions can be a though nut to crack. You are not alone. Here are a few thing I do.

For starters, I define emotions as a reaction in the form of a feeling in response to an event. Something event happens and feelings get triggered. I see a cute puppy and feel happiness. I get smacked in the nose, I feel anger. Emotions just are.

1. I don’t have good/bad, negative/positive emotions, I just have emotions. By lumping all emotions into one class, the bring me down emotion (still a classification) hold less power over me, because they are like any other emotion.

2. I’ve come to realize that my emotions are much faster than I am. No matter how fast I run, they always catch up to me, those nasty buggers. Instead, I be with my emotions. If I’ve sad, I recognize it, acknowledge it, and sit with it. It usually only takes a couple of minutes to reduce the power of emotion has over me. Sometimes that process can brutally painful, but I find it to be worth it.

3. My body talks to me. I imagine if you saw someone with the corners of their mouth turned down, you’d say they are sad. I imagine if you saw someone with the corner of their mouth turned up, you'd say they are happy. Those are two examples of the body talking.

Here's some of my body talk:

tight gut - feat anxiety
chest - accomplishment
back of the neck - stress
upper jaw - anger
downturn mouth -sadness
tight checks - alternating between sadness and anger

With body parts; your mileage may vary. Perhaps you emotions will come from a different part of the body. Nothing wrong with that. You may also ask how I got to know my body parts. By just recognizing my body. I would feel anger and my upper jaw would, yet again, be tight. Emotional connected to body part takes continued recognition.

So, if I recognize my upper jaw being tight, I know I'm angry. I can recognize the event that caused to anger. Most importantly, I just be with the emotion. I often say, "Okay, is am angry." I then spend some time with it. The anger is trying to tell me something. Believe it or not, anger is just as much a friend as happiness. They’re each just trying to tell me something.

Yeah, emotions are hard. I think society, for the most part, has it wrong. We often learn to seperate and run from our emotions. That just makes us fearful tired. But by befriended our emotions, they can become the teachers they are meant to be.