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Yes, I do feel like I don't fit in, Sisabel. In fact, PC is one of the few places where I feel like I fit in. I'm so sorry so many people are struggling with this, as well. You're all wonderful people and deserve nothing but love and kindness. I'm glad a place like this exists where people can share this, at least. Thank you for making this thread, Sisabel. Sending many hugs to everyone
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__________________ I go about my own business, and keep my mind on myself and my life. I expect the same courtesy from the rest of the world. |
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He was always wise around new people he didn't know. He was very guarded until he could sense that they were ok & if he never sensed it he would not let them touch him. We both had moved to a new town 2100 miles away from where we had always lived & we knew no one when we moved here. It was like getting to write a new life book if we got new words & ideas to write it with & observing his life & letting it become a total part of mine gave me that ability to start with. Finding an outstanding T 3 years later helped me learn skills I had not learned which gave me the ability to integrate the past with the present & give me the understanding of WHY the past was the way it was while learning who the real me was. The me who now was not always having to react to the dysfunctional people in my family I had been surrounded by. I hadn't even realized the high level of anxiety I had lived in all my life until I finally experienced peace. It was hard to fit in when one is always on guard to your environment. I fit in OK (not well) in my career because my family environment was always there even when I was away.....but it did give me a glimpse that there was something more inside of me than what was so overshadowed by the peoples dysfunctions I was been living around. I was finally able to uncover & discover that me __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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I realised at art class when I was bullied yesterday how badly I fitted into the group there and how unhappy it can make me to feel surrounded by people who are hostile and indifferent to me and who act superior.It has made me see that forcing myself to fit in and belong somewhere that I don't really belong and never will is a mistake.I hope that never happens to me again it was an unpleasant experience.The fact that I attended two session and completed the work expected of me shows me I can do it but don't have to especially seeing as the tutor joined in bullying me with the other bullies.It is not my fault that I had to withdraw from the course and I am glad I prioritised my emotional safety and spoke to the man in charge about how the tutor behaved.But not fitting in somewhere is such an unpleasant experience and can affect your self esteem and confidence badly.
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I loved to know your story with Leo. It’s incredible the role that pets may play. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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Leo was a good boy. You were lucky to have him. We miss these babies when we leave us. They’re our family. |
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Yes pets that we closely bond with can play a huge role in our lives. He was never trained as a service or companion dog but he had the heart for it from birth. He was the only male in the litter & everyone wanted female eskies that Christmas. I felt bad that he was the only one left with all his playmates gone so he came up to me bedroom & stayed with me. At 3 months old he rode on my lap to our winter vacation condo in Wyo where I ended up with pneumonia. He never left my side & the bond was established. That was 4 years before I finally left my H & we both traveled to the farm I bought (with his help too). He had flown here with me to find a farm & he flew back with me when the purchase was final the next month. That was when he really taught me so much about living & enjoying life & learning how to fit into your environment without losing who you really are. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Yes, they give people a lot, as long as you respect their nature.
My doggies also helped me a lot with my social anxiety and even feel a sort of sense of fitting in some places. I loved to know about the labour many working doggies do and how doggies and kitties are used as therapy animals. They are simple, truthful and the pack is everything for them. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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I am so glad you found similar help with your doggies. They are a wonderful part of our lives.....that can be any fur baby not just dogs
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