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Default Jan 29, 2019 at 08:02 PM
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I’m not always honest when I think that I can hurt another person’s feelings. I can’t hide it with my behaviour or my attitude bc I don’t know how to pretend, at least, consciously. But, this lack of bravery burns my inner, it kills me moment after moment but not for me but for the other person.
I know that the best is to be honest. How to be brave enough? How to break this circle?

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Default Jan 29, 2019 at 09:12 PM
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Why are you not able to be honest with this/these individual(s)?

Perhaps it could help in how you preface what you want to say?

No wonder why it burns your inner, not being able to be forthright with whomever it is.
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Default Jan 29, 2019 at 09:16 PM
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Maybe, I was for all my life scared of being hurt and not being strong enough to cope with the truth, whatever it may be. I took everything as personal. As an attack to my own self.
Maybe, I don’t want these people can feel as bad as I felt.
Now, at this point, I’m able to know the truth, face the truth and even being grateful for honesty, as ugly as this honesty could be for my expectations and interests.

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Default Jan 29, 2019 at 09:23 PM
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I'm not sure I can help you here. I always tell people the truth directly, and honestly a lot of people don't want me to tell them.

Maybe only give your opinion if they ask for it? Like if someone asks what you think of their outfit, you can tell them what you honestly think. Personally, I wouldn't take someone not liking my outfit personally. It's the clothes, it's not me. Same with hair and other things.
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Default Jan 29, 2019 at 09:28 PM
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Of course. I’m not referring to outfit or material things. I don’t have any problem with material stuff. I’m referring to feelings. When feelings change.
I understand your confusion. I was too general when expressing myself in this thread.

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I’m not always honest when I think that I can hurt another person’s feelings. I can’t hide it with my behaviour or my attitude bc I don’t know how to pretend, at least, consciously. But, this lack of bravery burns my inner, it kills me moment after moment but not for me but for the other person.
I know that the best is to be honest. How to be brave enough? How to break this circle?
I worry about this a lot. Exactly how you described your personal thoughts and emotions really rings true for me.

My biggest fear is hurting someone I love without meaning to.

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