[BonsaiGuy]

Do you ever feel disgusted with yourself over an impulsive decision you made?

Sometimes I will do things that are really impulsive or that I don't really think of at the time and later I really dwell on. I will feel really depressed over a mistake that really shouldn't carry that much weight.

An example of this would be that my wife and I had a payday a few days ago. Well, for various reasons (like this one), I am not trusted with our finances. This is something that was my idea and I have discussed and agreed on with my wife. Well, she gave me some money to buy some clothes. I have put on some weight and need to buy pants that fit.

I took most of the money and bought an expensive pair of sneakers.

What I am looking for is less insight on the example and more insight on acting on these impulsive decisions and non-violent intrusive thoughts. I tend to get really frustrated with myself because of this and I will dwell on it and feel depressed for days.

I know that I made a mistake. The question is what do I do with it now? I tend to be very hard on myself and beat myself up into oblivion.

Originally Posted by BonsaiGuy

Do you ever feel disgusted with yourself over an impulsive decision you made?


Sometimes I will do things that are really impulsive or that I don't really think of at the time and later I really dwell on. I will feel really depressed over a mistake that really shouldn't carry that much weight.


An example of this would be that my wife and I had a payday a few days ago. Well, for various reasons (like this one), I am not trusted with our finances. This is something that was my idea and I have discussed and agreed on with my wife. Well, she gave me some money to buy some clothes. I have put on some weight and need to buy pants that fit.


I took most of the money and bought an expensive pair of sneakers.


What I am looking for is less insight on the example and more insight on acting on these impulsive decisions and non-violent intrusive thoughts. I tend to get really frustrated with myself because of this and I will dwell on it and feel depressed for days.


I know that I made a mistake. The question is what do I do with it now? I tend to be very hard on myself and beat myself up into oblivion.

If I put myself in your shoes... no pun intended... I would not have wanted to buy pants either. It’s frustrating to gain weight and have to buy new clothes as a result. Good quality shoes are something we always need and were probably easy for you to justify in the moment. Can you return them? If not, maybe start a new walking or running routine now? Or ramp up the old routine if you already have one? I tend to make impulsive buys quite a bit so I’m working on this at the moment. I’m making myself really think before I buy something. It’s more fun to just buy stuff though.