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Glad you are moving to the new place soon, rechu!
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Thanks everyone for your support. Things have been moving forward with the move. We will give notice to the evil landlord soon so that March will be the last month we pay rent.

Weíve been bringing stuff to the house over the past few weekends and buying stuff we need for it. We installed all the curtains on the first floor. On March 5th, my husband starts a staycation where he will stay at the new place and do some of the work himself and also hire/supervise someone to do the more complicated things.

We decided to order a lot of the furniture new. We have a giftcard (US$3000 approximately) for a home improvement store and department store that the builder gave us, so that should help a lot. So, he can also be there to receive/assemble the furniture and set up internet service, etc. It sounds like we will be settled in by the end of March.
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Hi Rechu!

I'm not in this sub-forum often, and didn't see your post here (but I remember you posting about the new house in the Social forum, when I was complaining about my neighbors - thanks again!)

Just wanted to say - yay! It's March! You're almost there! I'm excited for you!

That's awesome that your husband is going to be able to get everything set up at the new place - so it should basically be "move-in ready" for you, right?

Anyway - hang in there! And congrats again on the new house!
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Thanks everyone for your support. Things have been moving forward with the move. We will give notice to the evil landlord soon so that March will be the last month we pay rent.

Weíve been bringing stuff to the house over the past few weekends and buying stuff we need for it. We installed all the curtains on the first floor. On March 5th, my husband starts a staycation where he will stay at the new place and do some of the work himself and also hire/supervise someone to do the more complicated things.

We decided to order a lot of the furniture new. We have a giftcard (US$3000 approximately) for a home improvement store and department store that the builder gave us, so that should help a lot. So, he can also be there to receive/assemble the furniture and set up internet service, etc. It sounds like we will be settled in by the end of March.


It sounds like you have done a good job hanging in there. Just a few short weeks to go. It will go by fast and soon you will be so much more happier and relaxed. I think itís best you didnít report those neighbors or call the police. That could have escalated things when what you want is to just make a smooth exit. Best of luck to you and keep us updated.
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Thanks Guilloche and Sisabel.


I agree Sisabel. Reporting those creeps had the potential to cause more trouble than it was worth. Only we and our neighbor friends (whose bike was hit) share a wall with them. We share a wall in the yard between the houses and a wall of the house, they share a wall in the yard. So, they probably would have assumed it was either us or them and retaliated.


For some reason a friend (who doesnít live here) became over-invested in convincing me to report them. I donít quite get why, she kept saying I owed it to the other neighbors. If the other neighbors want to file complaints with the police or municipal authorities, they are free to. It makes no sense for me to when I am moving soon. I can just imagine being cited to come make a declaration months later, when I am not even living here.


Another big step towards moving: we sent a certified letter to the owner on Saturday giving 30 daysí notice that we are leaving. I donít think she is going to take it well, sadly. At her age she is not going to want to fix up the place and find a new tenant. I can imagine her coming over and telling me we are putting her in a tough situation, but itís not like thatís going to change our minds. The house is bought; thereís no going back.


These steps like giving notice are helping my mood. Tomorrow is our wedding anniversary and we are both off work. We are going to go furniture shopping for the new place. We got a giftcard for about US$3000 from the builder for several different stores including a home improvement chain and a department store chain, so we decided to get mostly new things - new place, new things, new vibes. The 6th he starts staying at the new place. And yeah, nice for me, it should be almost move-in ready.
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Just thinking about you Rechu, and hoping everything with the move (and the move-out process!) is going smoothly. Shopping for new stuff sounds fun, hope you guys found some awesome new pieces for the new home!
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Thanks for the good thoughts guilloche. The work my husband wanted to do hasnít advanced as far as we hoped because one of our dogs got sick. Yesterday he ordered the rest of the stuff he needs for the patio and did a lot of cleaning out old papers. We both did, actually.


This morning he headed out early to receive the materials we ordered and restart the work. We have a number for a local person to do the gas hookups and the roof of the laundry room, so he is going to call him today. Heíll stay overnight and then come back here tomorrow afternoon since we have to take the dog back to the vet for a check-up.


We got very lucky over the weekend. Heading to the grocery store, we noticed that there was a lot of old furniture out on the sidewalk and realized that it was one of these days the municipal government holds where you can drag out stuff you donít want and they will cart it away for free. Usually they charge. So, we quickly went back home and dragged out a bunch of stuff we donít want to bring with us. I had been checking their website to see if one of those days was scheduled, but hadnít seen anything.


We ordered the bed/nightstands yesterday and they will be delivered on Friday. We already have office furniture, a minibar and futon set up at the new place. The builder gave us a gift certificate for several stores including a home improvement store and department store, so we have been making good use of that to furnish the new place. So far, weíve only used about 35% of the amount, so we should be able to buy a new refrigerator and washer as well.


The letter to the landlord saying we are leaving was received. So far, not a peep out of her, which is surprising. Even the woman who helps her out, who is quite a gossip, hasnít said anything. I had expected her to mention it. She lives right across the street and has to have seen us loading stuff into the car even if the landlord didnít mention it.
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