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Default Jan 19, 2019 at 05:20 AM
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You all do not know me well but I can be brief. My son is 22 and goes to college. He is truly remarkable. He is such a good kid. On black friday he had a stroke( yep you read that right!) It turns out he had a PFO and had heart surgery to repair it to prevent any clots from going to his brain. We are very lucky because the damage is nearly all gone at this point but there are still personality issues and some cognitive issues that persists. I know he cant wait to get back to his apartment and be living amongst his peers. He went from being independent, to completely dependent to kinda dependent. His GF also broke up with him which is so good because she had her own issues and was very mean to him but it still hurts him.

So the semester starts tuesday and we are taking him back this morning. We were so lucky he was home for the stroke. He was not driving(he went temporarily blind), he was not alone at school(he began speaking gibberish) and we got him the the ER in 10 minutes. He is still going to have to see his speech therapist and OT. But I am so worried. What if it happens again and I am not there? He is on blood thinner and aspirin. The PFO repair was a complete success and the doctor's feel 99.9% sure that this fixed the problem and he wont have another stroke. Our kids are super close to us. We have a very tight family. I really love him a lot. I do not know if I can move him back in and leave without tearing up. I really adore him. I know I cant lock him in a bubble and protect him. And I know he wants that independence so badly but I keep playing the 'what-if' game. I am just looking for support I guess.
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Default Jan 19, 2019 at 11:28 AM
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I can guess your fears, Sarah.
Is he gonna live far from you? I mean in one of these student housing?

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Default Jan 19, 2019 at 07:23 PM
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Oh my. Sending hugs. Is he far and can you visit him often? I wonder if he could instead transfer to local school? Or he’d feel loss of independence? Or maybe could he take a semester off for medical reasons and go back when he is better? I imagine he just wants to go back to a normal life. Thinking about you and your family
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Default Jan 26, 2019 at 01:04 PM
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You're a wonderful mother, sarahsweets. I'm so sorry this is happening to you I understand your fears. I hope nothing bad will happen, as none of you deserve it. You're all in my thougths and prayers. Try not to worry too much, you're already doing the best you can, although I understand it's not easy. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you and to him
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Default Jan 26, 2019 at 01:12 PM
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Good Heavens SarahSweets — no WONDER you’re beside yourself! Go ahead and tear up, I’d say — no shame in that! Sending you and your family many good thoughts and prayers and wishes the situation will resolve itself positively and soon. 🌹
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That's a tough situation.

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