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I used to carry a lot of resentments which led to anger. I learned (through sobriety) to make amends for my part, and let go of the anger-especially if it had any sort of control over me or if it took up too much space in my head. For me it involved some writing and meditation but anyone can do this, it doesnt have to be a 12 step thing. I have written letters before and then burned them. I just do not believe in giving power to things I cant control-especially people in my life. If they are toxic I remove them from my life, if I have to deal with them I come to a place of peace and know that I did what I have to do and they are the ones responsible for their own feelings or behavior. I hope I do not sound preachy. I am not trying to sound like that.
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something else I'm trying to do more of is forgive people.

I'm actually not very good at that, so it will take time, but I'm getting their.
Forgiveness can be hard, yes.
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I used to carry a lot of resentments which led to anger. I learned (through sobriety) to make amends for my part, and let go of the anger-especially if it had any sort of control over me or if it took up too much space in my head. For me it involved some writing and meditation but anyone can do this, it doesnt have to be a 12 step thing. I have written letters before and then burned them. I just do not believe in giving power to things I cant control-especially people in my life. If they are toxic I remove them from my life, if I have to deal with them I come to a place of peace and know that I did what I have to do and they are the ones responsible for their own feelings or behavior. I hope I do not sound preachy. I am not trying to sound like that.
I, too, have written letters to those I felt hurt by and sent some of them out. It was what I did and the way it was, not going to beat myself up for it. I ripped a lot of the letters up, too. I read one at someone's grave, too. I have made many amends and people still didn't forgive me. I guess that's a problem with them and not me. I am not an ax murderer as some of them acted like. I find it hard to deal with some people and do get away from them if I feel too uncomfortable with them.
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LucyD, thanks for starting this thread. And Skeezyks, thanks for the links.
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Part of what I'm angry with is myself for getting this cirrhosis of the liver. I must of thought I was indestructible. I was never told that Fatty Liver Disease can lead to cirrhosis. Just always instructed to lose weight and eat low fat. I'm mad at myself for not listening, for being careless with my health. I feel like my family(of origin) blames me for getting cirrhosis, like I brought it on myself so why should they care? They act as if they don't give a flying *&#$. Well, I guess I don't really know what's in their hearts for they don't say. They ignore me for the most part. I understand they have their own health concerns and families and are up in years, too. Not one of them has said anything the least bit comforting to me, though.

I just am really scared under it all. Fearful of getting very sick, of bleeding to death from this disease, of ending up in the hospital for long periods of time, scared my pets will have no one to care for them. But I having been taking positive steps to help my health. Going to see a dietician to find out what is really best to eat, how much and how often with this disease.

Thanks for reading this if you got this far. Just needed to say this stuff.
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Part of what I'm angry with is myself for getting this cirrhosis of the liver. I must of thought I was indestructible. I was never told that Fatty Liver Disease can lead to cirrhosis. Just always instructed to lose weight and eat low fat. I'm mad at myself for not listening, for being careless with my health. I feel like my family(of origin) blames me for getting cirrhosis, like I brought it on myself so why should they care? They act as if they don't give a flying *&#$. Well, I guess I don't really know what's in their hearts for they don't say. They ignore me for the most part. I understand they have their own health concerns and families and are up in years, too. Not one of them has said anything the least bit comforting to me, though.

I just am really scared under it all. Fearful of getting very sick, of bleeding to death from this disease, of ending up in the hospital for long periods of time, scared my pets will have no one to care for them. But I having been taking positive steps to help my health. Going to see a dietician to find out what is really best to eat, how much and how often with this disease.

Thanks for reading this if you got this far. Just needed to say this stuff.
I had fatty liver disease before I had gastric bypass. Once I lost the weight it went away. I also had elevated liver enzymes due to drinking and those normalized when I stopped. I believe you can reverse fatty liver disease which can sometimes affect your enzymes- would any of that make a difference with cirrosis? Or is it like its too late? I am seriously asking because I do not know. If you undertook a diet or exercise plan would that change anything?
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I'm so sorry, LucyD It sounds like you're trying your best to take care of your health. Good for you! Please don't be so hard on yourself. Please don't give up. It's definitely not your fault if you've had Fatty Liver Disease. Of course you didn't ask for it. What's important is that you're taking steps to take care of it. Be proud of yourself for that. I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you need and deserve IRL. Remember that we're here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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I get really angry too, and quite often. I think it's a reasonably normal way of trying to process stress and hardships, it's just obviously not the healthiest way.

I'm going through anger spikes at the moment after ending several abusive relationships recently. Obviously in the long run I know this is the healthiest decision for me, but I have such rage at the people who put me through hell.

Now some of it for me is about having to realise where I went wrong, to accept and acknowledge how I didn't help matters, but to also be kind to myself and realise they were mistakes. And we can't be forever angry at our mistakes, otherwise we'll never move on with life. This also includes trying to come to terms with ill health and to stop putting myself down over it repeatedly. Bad luck also happens, and it sounds as if you've had a fair share of that too.

I know it isn't easy but... be kind to yourself. Keep venting here if it helps
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I'm so sorry, LucyD It sounds like you're trying your best to take care of your health. Good for you! Please don't be so hard on yourself. Please don't give up. It's definitely not your fault if you've had Fatty Liver Disease. Of course you didn't ask for it. What's important is that you're taking steps to take care of it. Be proud of yourself for that. I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you need and deserve IRL. Remember that we're here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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