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Old 02-05-2019, 03:21 AM #1
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Why should I forgive anyone who talks down about people with self destructive behavior? Why should I be friends with someone who criticizes people who are suicidal? I don't like the way people talk about certain people and how they look down on them with that pissed off look. People disgust me with the things they say. They're really pissing me off. Why should I have to make up with these sort of people? I don't think I want these types of people in my life because I can't stand them and the things they say. I want to destroy that look on thier face because I can't stand it. **** you. You disgust me. I don't like your tone or that look. Just had to vent here. I'm really really angry.
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I understand the people who act in these ways so I can't stand they way other people talk about them.
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You dont have to associate with them, just dont let them monopolize your thoughts.
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I don't think you have any obligation to like or stay with these people, ExplodingSun56. If they do bother you that much, I'd suggest to just avoid them as much as you can. You don't need more toxic people in your life, and you're already struggling with anger. Just cut off contacts with them if you can. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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Why should I forgive anyone who talks down about people with self destructive behavior? Why should I be friends with someone who criticizes people who are suicidal? I don't like the way people talk about certain people and how they look down on them with that pissed off look. People disgust me with the things they say. They're really pissing me off. Why should I have to make up with these sort of people? I don't think I want these types of people in my life because I can't stand them and the things they say. I want to destroy that look on thier face because I can't stand it. **** you. You disgust me. I don't like your tone or that look. Just had to vent here. I'm really really angry.


It sounds like you are really hurting. In that sense your anger may certainly be justified. I have many significant examples of being angry due to the beliefs, statements, and actions of others. Sometimes these observations or social infractions may be enough to create a real anger and rage in my heart.

One thing that has helped me with this aspect of deviant social behavior is to take a moment and and center yourself with mindfulness and positive affirmations. Thank the almighty that you are who you are and that you're not them (this may be selfish or condescending but I have found it to help to a degree). Once this realization is established, concentrate on your breath. Think about the reality of who you are and distance yourself from that trigger (both mentally and physically).

In reality, your anger is donating a lot of time and mental space to those "disgusting people". For me, I will donate my mental space for sometimes more than a day and it accomplishes nothing! I keep cycling their infractions over and over in my head and it never helps anything but to make me even more angry. The core of my advice is this... Remove the parallel comparison between you and them, relax, practice mindfulness and focus on your breath, back up your reality with positive affirmations, and last but not least; love yourself.
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I would definitely cut off contact with these people if at all possible! It’s sad when people are cruel to those in pain. Some people are just a-holes.

I agree with the above.. in this sense your anger is “justified”. Feel free to keep posting here and venting.
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My mom was asking me if I had made up with my friend yet and I don't know if I want to do that because I'm afraid of letting certain people back into my life. I've been hanging out with someone else who doesn't judge me and I feel more comfortable around them so I would just rather have those people in my life. Other people just cause me a lot of stress and I want to be able to focus on school.
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Why should I forgive anyone who talks down about people with self destructive behavior? Why should I be friends with someone who criticizes people who are suicidal? I don't like the way people talk about certain people and how they look down on them with that pissed off look. People disgust me with the things they say. They're really pissing me off. Why should I have to make up with these sort of people? I don't think I want these types of people in my life because I can't stand them and the things they say. I want to destroy that look on thier face because I can't stand it. **** you. You disgust me. I don't like your tone or that look. Just had to vent here. I'm really really angry.
I was angry towards people like that for a while. What helped me was just coming to a realization that everyone thinks and feels differently. Everyone has lived different experiences, and because of that, it is sometimes extremely difficult for someone to understand others' situations. It's easier to dismiss someone with negativity than to try and truly understand someones situation. I try to encourage people to take that extra step to emphasize with people just a little more.
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