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I plan to and am working hard to comply. I guess I'll just have to do it. I need to live my life. But she is making it very hard to do it. I'm not in the best place to move financially. But I really feel like this is the path God wants me to take.
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You already declined subsidized housing once. They won’t offer next time. Take it
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Like you've said, Aviza, it is your life and you need to make your own decisions. Opportunities like this are rare, so definitely move as soon as you can. Your mother will have to accept it, whether she likes it or not. She can't dictate how you should live your own life. I hope you'll like your new home. Is there anyone else IRL that could help you financially? Any friend or family members? I hope things will get better soon. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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It sounds like you have everything figured it ouy, Aviza. Good for you! Keep doing what you're doing. You're doing the right thing for yourself and your family. Sending many hugs to you
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Anyways. What have you told them in response to their declaration of dissaproval? Have they done so in a tactful manner? |
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I'm in a different place, but i don't get paid for time off and am $200 less this month, with an added expense. Making my finances tight. My insurance will change because I'm under my moms policy, living with her. __________________ Son: 14, 12/15/2009 R.I.P. Daughter: 20 Diagnosis: Bipolar with Psychosis. Latuda 100 mgs. |
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Well I've been stable living with mom and historically unstable living alone. But historically I wasn't taking Meds or in treatment when I was living alone. I was doing it on my own, this time I have help. Subsidized housing, case manager, therapy, arms worker, etc.
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You sound very entwined with your mom. Sure your family may be concerned that you cracked once before but did they come right out and say "we disapprove" of this? And why is it their place to stop you? Like you said you weren't in therapy nor on meds before and now you have professional staff supporting you through this big step. What came of that letter of promise to repay? |
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And have you ever reached out to PC before for one of those help funds?
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If you are in financial trouble, you can ask PC members to collect some funds for you. I have my own views on that but I’ll keep it myself. But that’s what poster above mentioned
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That is what I was referring to.
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I was hoping to inspire you to think outside of the box and not feel trapped by your mom's will/desires/guilt trips and can't do's.
I've watched such things transpire irl with a couple of individuals and it's very difficult to watch from the outside. I reflect back on my mom's words when I was in my early 20s and for me, it was better to have the rift and my own seething resentment to her at various points in time than to have been used as her emotional/financial crutch. It's such a gray area because she had her finer points as well. |
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#16
I don't need help stretched this month. I should be back to normal next month.
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#17
Got the letter I needed, just a few more docs needed. But the letter was of utmost importance.
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Awesome!
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