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Default Mar 22, 2019 at 07:20 PM
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I’m rather a good “judge” of character mostly.. so I don’t know why I’m hurt by the mean spirited people in this world who love to hate fuzzy bears and who intentionally misunderstand my words. I am not a mean person. I sometimes get triggered like many with mh issues especially CPTSD do.. this does not make me “a bad Person”...

Does anyone here NOT dislike rejection..

I’m not a piece of bog roll to wipe anyone’s butt on....

(Not about anyone here)

Please no bites or lectures

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Default Mar 23, 2019 at 05:22 AM
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Fuzzybear You're a strong, wonderful person. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. Of course you're NOT a bad person, Fuzzybear! Please don't let the other people in your life bring you down. You deserve to be happy and to be treated with the love and respect that you need and deserve! Please don't give up. You're a strong, wonderful bear, Fuzzybear. We all know that! Try to hang on! Sending many hugs to you, Fuzzybear
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Default Mar 23, 2019 at 07:36 AM
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I honestly don't have time for bad people and negative comments

if that's the way people want to be with me, then it's goodbye vienna (that's what I say when someone is out of my life)

it's not always that easy (for example with my parents), but I've been hurt too much for people to waste my time with neggative remarks
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Default Mar 23, 2019 at 10:00 AM
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Raging vortex, I agree with you 100%!

Hi Fuzzy, try to ignore any mean people & the mean comments they make. Let them slide over you like water. Don't absorb their words! They mean nothing. All that does is make you feel awful. PLUS, it's a reflection of THEM and WHO THEY ARE, and says NOTHING about YOU and WHO YOU ARE.

Absorb all the love, not the hate.

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Default Mar 27, 2019 at 02:46 PM
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I honestly don't have time for bad people and negative comments


if that's the way people want to be with me, then it's goodbye vienna (that's what I say when someone is out of my life)


it's not always that easy (for example with my parents), but I've been hurt too much for people to waste my time with neggative remarks
I went looking for that alternative goodbye expression the other night but couldn't find it. Just did. For numerous reasons...I'm going to borrow this
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Default Mar 28, 2019 at 05:58 PM
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Hi Fuzzy,
Here's a reply for them:"Judge me when you're perfect."
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Default Apr 01, 2019 at 08:17 PM
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I just want to say this is a bad trigger for me too Fuzzy. When someone says something negative, I internalize it - that's what happened to me last year, resulting to me being gone for so long. Don't let anyone take your worth from you!

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Default Apr 01, 2019 at 09:31 PM
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A problem I have is wrongly interpreting some comments because for some reason they've hit a weak spot. I usually only find out after the fact when I'm asked why I responded harshly. However most of the time I don't respond at all and internalize like LadyShadow.

Many like us do this I think. It can be unforgiving and extremely painful. If I'm in a down cycle, it can be tough to look at things people say with a logical eye. I can often be defensively triggered. On better days I can better assess situations and be able to tell if something was actually meant to be critical.

Almost always when I'm doing ok, I find no conflict. Well...only when there are REAL ones....and to be logical, there are rarely real ones. It's the mind's deviltry more often than not . When we feel suspicious etc., our damaged esteem is perhaps to blame for most of it. It's no easy one for sure....I know. But questioning ones first impulses is always best...especially when feeling particularly vulnerable. Does that sound right? Hearts and hugs Fuzzy...
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Default Apr 02, 2019 at 01:41 PM
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I'm sorry you're hurting. You sound like a tender-hearted person and despite what some may think that's a strength. It means you have empathy and care. But these can also make you susceptible to hurt...I know because I speak from personal experience. There are times I can convince myself the hurtful words are not personal, it's the person's projection. Or speak up and tell the person that statement isn't fair. But yeah, it hurts. You are strong, and you deserve only kindness. As we all do.
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