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Hi Seesaw, your feelings are perfectly legit and OK. It's great to see you identifying your true needs and empowering yourself. It is not easy when you've been conditioned differently because of emotional survival needs, I know. I have been a people pleaser and went along with things, even if I disagreed, so as not to create conflict or criticism. But, it's the most empowering experience to say "no" "I don't like this" "I don't want to be a part of this anymore" or "I disagree with this" and to walk away from something that does not suit you well. For me, it's also a matter of not caring so much about what others say or think of me, which was also hard for me to accomplish (for years). You can say "no" and not be a bad person for doing so, even if it results in negative responses from others. I think the key thing I had to learn was to rise above the negativity I received. People will often criticize and put down those who show strength, independence and who do not go along with the crowd. As my best friend always tells me "the weak like to take down the strong". That always stuck with me. Many people go along with the crowd out of fear of being different, of being criticized and of being apart from the others and left out. Anyways, the point is, I am proud of you. It may take some practice, but it's best to be true to yourself and your own inner voice, as I've always believed. Keep listening to that inner voice and allowing it to be heard and acceptable to you, most importantly.
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