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I am sometimes mean to myself too, but I am trying to treat myself like a good friend. I don't call my friends stupid or any other names. So why should I talk that way about myself? It's one way to reframe things.
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I am sometimes mean to myself too, but I am trying to treat myself like a good friend. I don't call my friends stupid or any other names. So why should I talk that way about myself? It's one way to reframe things.


Thatís a good point. I wouldnít talk to other people the way I talk to myself.
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I was doing that this weekend over something I shouldn't have.
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I was doing that this weekend over something I shouldn't have.


Maybe itís more common than I thought.
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Society has a tendency to encourage self criticism in trying to create some kind of perfect ideal.
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I talked to myself all the way to work. I tried to reason with myself logically about all this nonsense. I truly want to stop this behavior pattern. I canít be perfect but I try to be perfect and then I beat myself up. Next Iíll be hard on myself for trying to be perfect....
No one is perfect, I've studied enough human behavior to know the majority is way more ****ed up than me. Greedy, closed minded, easily manipulated, bunch of followers, unable to change their perspective, etc. I make my own assessments and judge everything for myself.

I'm a leader and because I dont like anyone personally my judgement is totally based on who's the best and I'll get rid of the non productive people.

Most people have no idea what bipolar is and neither does pych docs since they're diagnosing everything bipolar, but now theres many other levels of bipolar. Yes you definitely sound like you have SOME traits of bipolar, the mental health society now has bipolar 4. Funny, whatever to push more meds on people that doesn't needs it. It's like ADHD /ADD all over again during the 90s. Here's some Ritalin for you and you and look this is my Bentley, thank you very much.

A dept head fired a guy for having a short temper and always being a ****. When they fired him his direct manager said, "i was so tired of dealing with that bipolar asshole". He wasn't bipolar, just a total asshole. I can easily spot someone that's manic vs someone just on cocaine.

I grew up hanging out with the gay community, not because I was gay but because I knew I was different and enjoyed being around them over the "normal" people. Many of my friends told me they wished they weren't gay. I too wished I didnt feel different than everyone else. Now they have large gay communities and pride parades. Maybe one day they'll have a bipolar parade and a bipolar communities where we can hang out and laugh at all the stupid people that have nothing better to do than judge and think their better than me. Jokes on them, I have a 4br house in San Diego with 4 BMWs. If you're different, society thinks you're broken and eventually you'll start believing it too. I'm no longer depressed because I'm not negative about who I'm, a strong driven Business executive.

Typing on a forum doesn't do it for me especially when most arent like me at all. Bipolar 1, my life is one big act where i have to hide who i am. Saying I'm bipolar could destroy my career and my pursuit of going from #3 to #1 CEO which is my goal in 2 years. Also I can't let anyone know because if you're bipolar you're, unreasonable, unreliable, stupid, a loose cannon, not able to make good judgments, and incapable of holding such a high title with all the responsibilities that comes with it.

Don't try to be something you're not because it's already setting you up for failure. No meds can cure being bipolar, that's just who and what we are. Meds can help with depression, anxiety, headaches, upset stomach, and diarrhea.

I'm always manic at work so no one things of me as broken but all dept heads comes to me when they have an issue they can't figure out. Everyone wants to be my friend but thankfully because of my position and being vegan no one asks me to hang out with them. Would you ask an executive to join you for dinner? No. It works great for me because I'm drained putting on the act all day. And to get out of having lunch with other dept heads, executives, and the CEO is because I'm vegan and have a peanut allergy, so I bring my own food. I'll just work non stop and take on more projects than anyone else but I have 4 personal assistants to help. When they say bipolar people take on too much they can't handle is only true if you don't have 4 personal assistants. LOL. Even if I didn't I have no problem working 80 to 90hrs a week if needed. I can easily work on several projects at once and have 3 computers that I'm running all different types of work, talking on the phone with other office staff, training my assistants on new projects that will increase company productivity which will increase profitability.

Money doesn't make me happy but it's very comfortable going from point A to B in my nice cars. Driving assist, music, and a massage is great in traffic. Yes cars does all that and more. But only if you have lots of this printed paper that people will do practically anything for.
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No one is perfect, I've studied enough human behavior to know the majority is way more ****ed up than me. Greedy, closed minded, easily manipulated, bunch of followers, unable to change their perspective, etc. I make my own assessments and judge everything for myself.

I'm a leader and because I dont like anyone personally my judgement is totally based on who's the best and I'll get rid of the non productive people.

Most people have no idea what bipolar is and neither does pych docs since they're diagnosing everything bipolar, but now theres many other levels of bipolar. Yes you definitely sound like you have SOME traits of bipolar, the mental health society now has bipolar 4. Funny, whatever to push more meds on people that doesn't needs it. It's like ADHD /ADD all over again during the 90s. Here's some Ritalin for you and you and look this is my Bentley, thank you very much.

A dept head fired a guy for having a short temper and always being a ****. When they fired him his direct manager said, "i was so tired of dealing with that bipolar asshole". He wasn't bipolar, just a total asshole. I can easily spot someone that's manic vs someone just on cocaine.

I grew up hanging out with the gay community, not because I was gay but because I knew I was different and enjoyed being around them over the "normal" people. Many of my friends told me they wished they weren't gay. I too wished I didnt feel different than everyone else. Now they have large gay communities and pride parades. Maybe one day they'll have a bipolar parade and a bipolar communities where we can hang out and laugh at all the stupid people that have nothing better to do than judge and think their better than me. Jokes on them, I have a 4br house in San Diego with 4 BMWs. If you're different, society thinks you're broken and eventually you'll start believing it too. I'm no longer depressed because I'm not negative about who I'm, a strong driven Business executive.

Typing on a forum doesn't do it for me especially when most arent like me at all. Bipolar 1, my life is one big act where i have to hide who i am. Saying I'm bipolar could destroy my career and my pursuit of going from #3 to #1 CEO which is my goal in 2 years. Also I can't let anyone know because if you're bipolar you're, unreasonable, unreliable, stupid, a loose cannon, not able to make good judgments, and incapable of holding such a high title with all the responsibilities that comes with it.

Don't try to be something you're not because it's already setting you up for failure. No meds can cure being bipolar, that's just who and what we are. Meds can help with depression, anxiety, headaches, upset stomach, and diarrhea.

I'm always manic at work so no one things of me as broken but all dept heads comes to me when they have an issue they can't figure out. Everyone wants to be my friend but thankfully because of my position and being vegan no one asks me to hang out with them. Would you ask an executive to join you for dinner? No. It works great for me because I'm drained putting on the act all day. And to get out of having lunch with other dept heads, executives, and the CEO is because I'm vegan and have a peanut allergy, so I bring my own food. I'll just work non stop and take on more projects than anyone else but I have 4 personal assistants to help. When they say bipolar people take on too much they can't handle is only true if you don't have 4 personal assistants. LOL. Even if I didn't I have no problem working 80 to 90hrs a week if needed. I can easily work on several projects at once and have 3 computers that I'm running all different types of work, talking on the phone with other office staff, training my assistants on new projects that will increase company productivity which will increase profitability.

Money doesn't make me happy but it's very comfortable going from point A to B in my nice cars. Driving assist, music, and a massage is great in traffic. Yes cars does all that and more. But only if you have lots of this printed paper that people will do practically anything for.


People will definitely do anything for money. Itís crazy. I donít know how you keep up with all those work hours. My anxiety would be too high and I would be exhausted. It sounds like you know exactly what you want in life and what makes you happy. Thatís good. Maybe thatís why Iím so hard on myself... Maybe Iím feeling discontent versus thankful...
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Ah,Sisabel,I have just the medicine for you,I hope. When we are kids,we UNconsciously
TRANSFER behaviours/words/feelings/etc.,from our parents to ourselves,thennn,we think
that they originated from US! We blame ourselves for having our PARENTS negativity which
we TRANSFERRED so long ago to ourselves. Those put-downs,criticisms,etc.,don't even
BELONG to you!
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Sissy, Iím just going to jot down a couple of quick thoughts because Iíve got to go out to dinner. But.....

I can relate. I, probably like you, am overly sensitive and an introvert. Our society does not admire these things and will bombard you with its disapproval from all sides. So itís doubly hard when you try to think well of yourself

What has finally helped me is to accept that that is how I am and I wont basically change, and then make a real effort not to think about these things any more. When the self-critical thoughts start to kick in, stop them. No one else can do this for you. I use an image of shioving them down a garbage shute before they can get into my head and start doing damage to the spirit within

Eckhart Tolle says ďDONíT THINK!Ē I believe heís right.
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