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Location: Ohio
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Does anyone have advice on how to avoid taking on the emotions and problems of your loved ones? My husband is really discouraged and depressed about his job right now, and it's hard not to feel that way too. It breaks my heart to see him so sad. I'm looking forward to your responses!
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#2
Here are links to 8 articles, from PC's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help with this:
Is Depression Contagious? When Your Spouse Is Depressed | The Gentle Self Suffering in Silence: When Your Spouse Is Depressed 3 Self-Care Tips While Loving Someone With Depression How You Can Better Love a Partner With Depression 5 Ways to Grow Together When Depression Enters a Relationship 6 Ways to Stop Absorbing Other People's Emotions 8 Ways to Cope with Contagious Stress __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) Last edited by Skeezyks; Jun 09, 2019 at 03:20 PM.. |
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I think trying to remain objective with your emotions and your sympathy while maintaining your own sense of self, separate from your husband, may help. It’s his difficulty right now that you sympathize with but you don’t need to shoulder it as though it’s your own. What helps the most is when one person has troubles, the other person remains positive and upbeat. That actually can help your husband. Just my two cents! I mean you can certainly emphasize with his pain but his pain doesn’t need to be yours too.
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Thanks so much for these articles! I appreciate your help and research.
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Location: Ohio
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Yes, this is great advice. I have also been reminded lately that my husband has to learn his own life lessons through trials, and trying to rescue him will rob him of an opportunity to learn and grow. Thanks so much for this advice!
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It's WONDERFUL that you feel empathy for what your husband is going through, vesseloflove, but it's important NOT to let that empathy overwhelm you!
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Location: Ohio
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MickeyCheeky,
I SO appreciate your kindness and empathy and caring advice. Self-care is something I'm not naturally great at, but have been learning to prioritize. I had a particular hard day emotionally yesterday, so today I'm practicing self-care by spending time alone in a rainy coffee shop , working on homework, and just BEING. Thank you for this reminder, I really appreciate your care. |
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I am currently dealing with this same problem! What has helped me to help him is getting him to talk about how he is currently feeling. I try to stay as positive as I can, but yet be there for him. I try to plan stuff to get his mind off of things, even it's just a simple walk. Overall try to be there as much as I can, even if it brings me down a little
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