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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 03:03 PM
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I do this. Does anyone else here do this?

I mean, I reach out for support about SOME issues, but there are other more private issues that I keep to myself and that I don't even talk about with my therapist.

Though on the outside and generally speaking, I feel happy, which is very weird.

I am a walking contradiction.
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Ooo Jun 12, 2019 at 04:55 PM
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I don't reach out for support with regard to much of anything. But there are also things about myself I have never told anyone... and never will. Nobody knows me at all...

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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 05:20 PM
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I don't reach out for support with regard to much of anything. But there are also things about myself I have never told anyone... and never will. Nobody knows me at all...
Same here... there are some things I haven't told anyone. HUGS.
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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 06:02 PM
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I am a big time contradiction.

I am very social and have ton of friends and am involved in all kind of social activities plus it would be hard to be in my line of work if I wasn’t social/outgoing person BUT at the same time I am very private. As many noticed I almost never create my own threads. I don’t feel a big need to share. People often don’t know much about me unless we are talking about few very close friends.

Yes there are things I don’t share. Like grief. Etc I rarely reach for support. I am quite stoic in life and I don’t like to mop but it doesn’t mean I don’t suffer when I have pain, I just don’t share much. Some of it is cultural. Showing vulnerability is not coming natural. Being tough comes natural. But sometimes I have breakthroughs and open up more and it’s good. Then I go back to my normal self
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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 06:09 PM
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I am a big time contradiction.

I am very social and have ton of friends and am involved in all kind of social activities plus it would be hard to be in my line of work if I wasn’t social/outgoing person BUT at the same time I am very private. As many noticed I almost never create my own threads. I don’t feel a big need to share. People often don’t know much about me unless we are talking about few very close friends.

Yes there are things I don’t share. Like grief. Etc I rarely reach for support. I am quite stoic in life and I don’t like to mop but it doesn’t mean I don’t suffer when I have pain, I just don’t share much. Some of it is cultural. Showing vulnerability is not coming natural. Being tough comes natural. But sometimes I have breakthroughs and open up more and it’s good. Then I go back to my normal self
Aha! That's it! My family is quite stoic! I think it trickled down to me as well! My sister is beyond stoic. She doesn't share much of anything and just deals on her own. I guess we all have our our way of dealing with things, especially when it comes to grief and/or more private matters.

I am definitely a walking contradiction in many ways, lol.

Thanks for your post! It opened my eyes a bit.
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Default Jun 12, 2019 at 07:17 PM
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I’m trying to learn to keep it to myself. I think I over share. That hasn’t done me a lick of good. I learned the bad habit from my mom and thought everyone did it. If it’s on my mind, it’s usually coming out my mouth. I do keep other’s feelings in mind. It’s my own issues I reveal, not doing myself a favor. I don’t even understand why I do it. Is it self sabotage?

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Default Jun 17, 2019 at 11:16 AM
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I am definitely a walking contradiction in many ways, lol.

Thanks for your post! It opened my eyes a bit.
I try to talk about what i can put into words and make sense of when i have to. Mostly, since i feel I'm in touch with the emotional side of life far more than most, i keep things to myself. I have been hurt so much in the past, i feel like that's how it was built to be. It is not how it think i should be, but it is. I've seen more than my share of pain and suffering, I'll leave that on me.
So yes, i do know how you feel. And it seems wrong to me. I don't know why but i feel that in some way I'll be able to find a way to better adapt to this life.

It feels like we're cursed, damned....

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Default Jun 18, 2019 at 05:58 AM
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Aside from my T, I struggle to open up to anyone these days. Some friends and family know about my mental health issues but I don't give details. I used to overshare, but all that brought was regret.
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Default Jun 18, 2019 at 06:24 AM
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I hear you, golden_eve! I don't share almost ANYTHING to other people in my life! I can DEFINITELY relate to what you and all the other wise, wonderful posters are saying! I DO believe it is important to have at least a FEW trusted people whom we can vent to. At the same time, sometimes there are just some things that we don't feel comfortable sharing with anyone and that's PERFECTLY OK! Different methods work for different people! I believe it's all a matter of wheter you feel ok with this or whether you want to change this behavior. If this is ok with you and you've just wanted to know whether people could relate to, that's ok! Either way, I know what you mean! I hope PC is at least a little bit helpful to you even though you may not want to share EVRYTHING of course! I wish you ALL a WONDERFUL day! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, golden_eve, and to EVERYONE!
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Default Jun 18, 2019 at 05:33 PM
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thank you all for your posts! Hugs to each and every one of you..

I am now silently suffering at work.... and on it goes.
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