2 weeks I will be homeless

I think it's absolutely reasonable, just make sure to make these requests politely and as requests and not demands.

Now my instructor emailed me tonight to advise me to petition the program director to "late drop" her course since i missed 5 weeks of the 7 weeks of her class, due to my mom's situation disrupting my ability to attend class and do assignments. While I am relieved that is an option, I worry that it could mean I have an F on my my transcript or something and would effect my ability to get financial aid in the fall when I plan to retake it. Hmm. Well, at least I'll have shelter by the end of this week...somewhere hopefully.

I'm so relieved!!

I found a better option than the basement rental so am going to take it.

The pros:

*I know this person (not well, but I know them)
*House is located in familiar neighborhood
*Bedroom is NOT IN A BASEMENT
*Same rent price as basement rental option
*Shared space of kitchen, living room, dining room
*located in a suburb so street parking free or park in driveway
*Same rent as the basement rental option

This person's friend was supposed to move in temporarily to their house but they decided their pets would not get along, so they emailed me after I told them my situation and offered me their room! I will go look at the room today and chat with this person, but I'm already "in" so to speak b/c of all the pros about this rental situation.

They are divorced and have a teenager but I'm ok with that.

I'm so relieved. I cannot tell you how relieved I feel. Now, I know I'll be safe, I'll be able to sleep at night not worrying about my safety (b/c I won't be stuck in small basement that has no door, no egress window) for the next 3 months while I try to get a temp job/full time job and wait to find out if my late drop petition of my grad school course is accepted so that I can stay in my grad school program.

Hooray I have a place to live for the next 3 months! I'm so relieved! So relieved. Now, I can check that huge box off my list. We got along great and I love the house and neighborhood. So much better than that awful basement renter's option. So much better.

I am so happy for you!!

The late drop should just be treated as a regular w - withdrawal. So you wont get an F, but you wont get the associated credits either.

Thank you Bill3 it's a HUGE relief! Shelter is such a vital need so I'm really relieved that this new acquaintance's previous renter fell through so that I could rent from her instead. Otherwise, I was really nervous about renting that tiny, questionable basement space for 3 months. Hopefully the next 3 months will go well there.

The registrar approved my petition to drop late very quickly -- they approved me today for a 75% medical withdraw, so you were right about the W on my transcript. I'm ok with that as its a masters program for credentials, not for more academic study and my hope is that future employers won't avoid hiring me because I have one W on my graduate transcript. I also will get a partial refund from this class so that will help me out a lot since I"m not working right now. I assume a W is not as bad as having an F on one's academic transcript.

Now, I just need to find a full-time job. I can register for my fall semester in August, so I'm really glad this has worked out so far.

You're a regular fighter! And a winner! Congratulations!

Blanche: You've sacrificed so much to help others. I hope that you will reap the reward of your generosity. I see that now good things are starting to come back to you . I hope that things will only get better and better for you!

Thank you Poiuytl and ennie!! Now I just have to find the best temp job opportunity while I apply for full-time jobs still.

Today a recruiter called me with two job opportunities but I turned them down because I *knew* both would have bad outcomes.

Temp job #1: $17.50/hr (good hourly pay) BUT its production line work (you train for 2-3 weeks on double computer screens before you join your "team") which means speed, accuracy, and overtime hours. I did this type of temp job before and was "fired" after 3 months because I made too many data entry mistakes and as a result, the recruiters at my agency chose NOT to place me in other contract administrative assignments. So, I explained this to the recruiter that I didn't think that opportunity was a good fit for me.

Temp job #2: $15.00/hr (meh hourly pay) BUT it was an admin role I could feel comfortable doing. HOWEVER it was temp to hire which means 1) I can't pay my rent/bills on $15/hr (I tried doing that before as a substitute teacher and nearly lost my apartment twice, not having enough money for rent) and 2) its not short-term, so if there were other more well-suited admin roles at the temp agency I would not be included in the candidate pool for those and 3) its not short term so I would be stuck doing a role with no opportunities to move to another department, get benefits, or get a pay increase b/c it is a small company. So, I explained to the recruiter that this also wasn't a good fit for me.

I think the worst thing I can do is take the wrong type of temp role b/c I've done that before and the results are always the same; recruiters won't place you again in better suited roles. So, I am not about to risk repeating that with this new temp agency that I registered with.

Streetcarblanche, I read your thread a first I cannot express the strength you must have to endure something like this that must have caused you endless anxiety. I have gone through horrible abuse for 15 months of my life and there were times I didn't think I'd ever get out of it, but it happened. I am so glad that you have found a home to live for the next 3 months and now like you said your next hurdle in finding a job. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and hope you find that job very soon. Big Hugs to you.

Hi Misery Business, thanks so much for your support. It really did cause me endless anxiety. And, according to many articles I read online about adult caregivers, their physical and emotional health problems can sometimes linger for years after their role as their parent's caregiver ends. I'm still in high-stress-mode trying to find a job now, and I'm severely anemic, vit. deficient, thyroid disease, and although I found a counselor to see once a week I'm really struggling with daily panic attacks happening despite my use of DBT self-talk and using grounding techniques to stop the panic attacks (which doesn't stop them).

I'm sorry that you endured horrible abuse for nearly 2 years of your life. I'm happy to read that you escaped your situation (I haven't had a chance to read any of yoru threads you may have posted about it yet, but I will if that's ok).

I found a job that I want to apply for today but am anxious I will be 1 of 100+ candidates (probably the normal statistics for jobs these days) who have longer administrative careers than my education and admin temp jobs' background. I will spend a few hours reformatting my resume and send in my application and hope they contact me for an interview. I know one person associated with this company but I don't know them well. I think I will contact them to see if I can ask them to be a reference for me.

The recruiter who wanted me to consider the two temp jobs that were a wrong fit for me, initially told me about a receptionist position that I told him I wanted to be considered for -- yet he didn't submit me for that role. This is exactly why I hate using recruiters at temp agencies. They put their agenda of filling their jobs over what is the best fit for their candidates (people in my situation). Had he submitted me for the receptionist role, I would have been perfect fit b/c it pays really well and is temp to hire. But he wouldn't even submit me for it. He just wanted to try to force me into considering two roles that were 100% wrong for me. That is just ****** recruiting practice. I hate being at their whim.

No problem at all, I totally understand endless anxiety and all I can say to that is I live day to day to deal with it. I also see a therapist twice per week which has helped me tremendously.

I haven't yet opened up fully in the open forum of what I endured in the 15 months that brought on all the issues I face now. I guess most members hear can guess from the underlying things I have said in my posts and my signature what I went through in those 15 months and what I struggle with in the flashbacks and nightmares and Social Anxiety and PTSD and Depression I suffer from now.

I would think you would know best the jobs that suite you. Now this is coming from a 16 year old kid who has never had a job, but that just makes the most sense to me. I hope this job works out for you. I am also looking for a job as my therapist said it would be good for me to have some sort of routine for the Summer. I am really anxious about it. My job search is totally different then yours at mine is part time and a job for a kid. I am going to apply at the local Movie Theater I think.

Like I said before I really think you have been strong through this whole thing even though you are still anxious. I think sometimes being anxious is normal. Like going for a new job. You should be anxious about that. You should be really proud of yourself.