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Angry Jun 23, 2019 at 11:43 PM
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I struggle with anger. I moreso struggle with communication. In fact, I can't communicate when I'm angry, and I'm angry all the time.

I know it is not good to bottle up my anger, but I fear from the conversations I have in my head, I fear that I'll become violent and lose control. I've never hit or hurt someone physically, and I've never gotten to the point where I scream at people, but in my head these things play out in my mind, so I say nothing, and it leaves me steaming and seething and seeing red constantly.

I have hurt people by saying hurtful things, things I regret instantaneously, in the past. Usually over text or other messaging.

I don't know what to do about my anger. I can't be angry all the time, but when I feel like when I'm angry I'm unreasonable unless I can get myself to calm down. But I can spend hours angry, and it's not healthy.

How can I get myself to calm down in a more timely manner, and how can I communicate how I feel when I'm angry in a healthy way?

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Default Jun 24, 2019 at 04:39 AM
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This is kind of a philosophy question to me, more about how you choose to live your life. I hear you saying, you dont just see the glass as half-empty, you are angry that its half-empty. Are you asking how to become a person who sees the glass as half-full?
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I used to carry a lot of resentments that made me angry. To be fair getting sober was a catalyst for me but I think for a lot of people letting go of resentments can help.

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Default Jun 24, 2019 at 06:16 AM
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I hear you, LiteraryLark! I'm not sure if that may be helpful, but have you thought about buying a punching bag? It may be helpful to vent your anger and frustration that way. Do you exercise? That may be another good way to cope with your anger as well. As for how to deal with your anger in the moment, perhaps you can try to count to ten before saying anything. Perhaps you've already knew ALL of this and it isn't very helpful. In that case I apologize Please NEVER give up hope! I'm sure you'll be able to find ways to cope with your anger. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help! You could learn new things and new ways to cope with your feelings! Please DO consider it if you're not seeing one already and if you can and want! Wishing nothing but peace and love to you! Please keep us updated on your situation fi you can and want to! Let us know how things are going for you! We ALL do care about you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your family, LiteraryLark!
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Default Jun 24, 2019 at 07:35 AM
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Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper - Mayo Clinic
I hope you find this article helpful. It says to calmly address the issues that cause the anger rather than keep it bottled up or blowing up.

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