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Old 07-11-2019, 09:13 PM   #11
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I've heard mindfulness can help people stop ruminating and living in the past. Have you ever tried any mindfulness exercises? There is a lot of information out there on it.
I have tried it- pretty consistently for a month or 2 a couple of years ago. It wasn't like an, "oh my gosh I'm cured!" moment. But it was okay. I might try it again. I was especially drawn to the "loving kindness" meditations. I had hoped that they would help me change my attitude towards other people.


The mindfulness meditations didn't make things worse (but sometimes they caused some pain, because they reminded me of how my mental life is, and how it could be...), and I like the message.



This is a good one: YouTube
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Old 07-12-2019, 03:05 AM   #12
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I have found that some self hypnosis stuff onyoutube has genuinely helped me with my self esteem.
Along with positive affirmations and getting some easy wins (losing a bit of weight or something).
I also find some asmr stuff very helpful for my mental state - just being to,d I'm ok in a soothing voice is very nice.
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Oh OK. Well if what they are saying is working then that is good. I was just thinking of my experience where people have tried to "cheer me up" and when I am not instantly "fixed" they get frustrated. It's exhausting having to pretend to be happy for other people.
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