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I won't bore you with too many details, but lately I just don't want to spend time with my wife's family... She wants me to spend more time with them, but every time I'm around them- it's an ordeal for me.
The last time I spent any time with them, someone (I never met him before) from her extended family just came up and started yelling at me. We're supposed to go to see her family again this Friday. But I doubt I'll go. I'm okay with seeing them for short periods of time on holidays- but that's about all I can handle. I suspect that most of the problem is that I have different religious and political views than the rest of them. They let met know that that is an issue for them. They also let me know that my choice of vocation is unacceptable to them. __________________ My business is to teach my aspirations to conform themselves to fact, not to try and make facts harmonise with my aspirations. T.H. Huxley Last edited by atisketatasket; Aug 07, 2019 at 07:11 PM.. Reason: OP request |
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I've given up trying to talk to my wife about it. She either gets defensive, or just ignores what I say and then just keeps trying to get me to spend time with her family. It's gotten to be so bad, I usually drive separately- and then leave as early as I can get away. I think this Friday I'll just have to give her some excuse about why I can't go. I think on some level she is starting to see the things they say and do to me, but apparently, their behavior is acceptable, as far as she is concerned. __________________ My business is to teach my aspirations to conform themselves to fact, not to try and make facts harmonise with my aspirations. T.H. Huxley |
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At this point, my plan is to spend as little time with her family as possible, without making much fuss about it.
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I am so sorry they're treating you SO badly, @shakespeare47! You do not deserve this treatmen. I agree with you that perhaps it's better to spend as little time with them as possible. At the same time, though, I also agree with sarahsweets: it's not fair of your Wife to just ignore your feelings like that. It does needd to be discussed in my opinion. Perhaps Couple Counselling may be an option like she said. Give it a thought although I understand it may be difficult to convince your Wife. I wish you the best of luck this Friday and with whathever you decide to do! Keep us updated! I'll be thinking of you. Feel free to PM me anytime as well when you need to vent as my Inbox is always open for EVERYONE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your Wife, @shakespeare47! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING!
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I'm not opposed to couple's therapy. I'll see what I can do...
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I achieved my goal. I'm not going, and I didn't make a fuss. Neither did she.
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