What is loneliness?

Pygmalion · Jul 31, 2019 at 04:55 AM

If most are like me, then it matters because it's a normal part of the human condition and not something to be, or can be, treated.

I want anonymous strangers to engage with me in abstract discussion because I find such talk interesting. The talk itself is the fun thing. It's not about anything else beyond. It just intrigues me that there doesn't seem to be a definition of loneliness that doesn't just boil down to boredom, IMHO.

divine1966 · Jul 31, 2019 at 07:21 AM

people suffering from depression aren’t necessarily sad all the time. Lack of interest in anything and not enjoying life is one of the other sings. I think you can see from this forum that, no, majority of people aren’t always miserable. So I’d take that concept out of equation and focus on your own suffering and roots of it

divine1966 · Jul 31, 2019 at 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Pygmalion

I'm unable to see the picture/link on my screen.

I came to this forum as it came up on when I was doing a search of sexality fora to participate in, as that's what I originally wanted to find - mostly to just chat with people with odd sexualities like myself. I didn't come here with the intention of receiving mental health help. But the sexuality sections here are pretty dead, tbh, so I wander about looking for interesting conversations to engage in.

I honestly don't think I'm depressed. I'm at the happiest I've been for many years, but that might not be saying such since I admit that for most of life I've hated life. But I certainly don't mind talking honestly about myself, and I enjoy talking about myself because I'm likely quite vain. And it happens to be true that I am really bored all the time and have been for a long while. If that counts as depression then depression means something I didn't expect, but it doesn't matter if people want to tell me I'm depressed, I just disagree with them. Eitherway, nothing changes ... I'm still bored, lol

Edit:
Just figured out how to use the show button, lol. Yes, that me, being very drunk and hyperbolic, but still fairly accurate. I go through moods certainly. But I don't think I'm depressed though, because I don't feel 'sad' all the time. Mostly, I feel frustrated, or bored, or angry, or in physical pain, or disgusted. But not sad or depressed.

This is the original thread on the asexuality forum where I posted that, if anyone's interested in the whole context and exchange:
LGB are always the worst - Get it off your chest. - Asexual Me

Further edit:
I'm guessing I know you from other forums I've been in. What is your username elsewhere? I take it you are Dark Lee? Perhaps Telecaster from AVEN?

I don’t know if it’s within guidelines to post links to other forums but if it’s it should maybe go to sexuality issues subforum.. Not here.

Pygmalion · 02:17 PM

I'm not convinced that this forum provides enough evidence to overturn my life experience and many thousands of people known, both Irl and online, regarding most people being somewhat miserable. I'm happy to accept that plenty aren't, at any one time, all that miserable.

It's interesting that depression might be something other than what I though it was, though. So, if I'm bored most of the time, but not actually feeling very sad or depressed, that is still depression? How is depression then different to boredom? And can such depression simply be cured by having lots to do, then?

divine1966 · Jul 31, 2019 at 09:02 AM

I don’t think we can or should diagnose people online, we can just suggest some ideas that many of us already did. To obtain diagnosis and proper treatment, you’d have to see a medical professional irl.

Pygmalion · Jul 31, 2019 at 09:29 AM

Of coursr. Im not seeking a diagnosis, and i dont require or desire treatment for anyyhing.

But i am interested in what, if anything, is the diffrfence between loneliness and boredom.

atisketatasket · Jul 31, 2019 at 01:13 PM

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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,358 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 07:21 AM #62 people suffering from depression aren’t necessarily sad all the time. Lack of interest in anything and not enjoying life is one of the other sings. I think you can see from this forum that, no, majority of people aren’t always miserable. So I’d take that concept out of equation and focus on your own suffering and roots of it

divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,358 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 09:02 AM #65 I don’t think we can or should diagnose people online, we can just suggest some ideas that many of us already did. To obtain diagnosis and proper treatment, you’d have to see a medical professional irl.

Pygmalion Member Member Since Jul 2019 Location: UK Posts: 125 4 35 hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 09:29 AM #66 Of coursr. Im not seeking a diagnosis, and i dont require or desire treatment for anyyhing. But i am interested in what, if anything, is the diffrfence between loneliness and boredom. __________________ male hetero (GNC/CD phases) inorganic psychesexual (objectum spectrum)

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,143 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 01:13 PM #67 This thread is being closed while the community support team discusses it. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth