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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 02:53 AM
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I am sorry that you feel pain. That you were ignored, abused.
I'm sorry that you were not listened to, heard or validated.
I am sorry that you had to grow up with fear and abuse. That you had to feel blame.

The shame and humiliation;
the invalidation and gaslighting.
The physical and mental scars,
feeling unworthy and helpless.
For that I want you to know that I am sorry.

I am sorry your childhood was robbed and that you felt alone.
I am sorry that you missed out on love and contentment.
That you were scared or miniscule; that you lacked protection and warmth.

I am sorry that you do not have support. I am sorry that you were abandoned in your time of need.
I feel for you very deeply and I want you to be understood.

I am sorry that your experiences have caused you pain.
I am sorry that you did not receive adequate medical care.
I am sorry that you did not receive mental health support.

I am sorry if you doubt yourself or feel like you are crazy. I am sorry your parents did not love and support you.
I am sorry you were physically harmed and emotionally wounded.
I am sorry that those closest to you are the ones that hurt you most, and it some cases those people are your children.
I am sorry that the professionals did not help you; that they took advantage of you and abused you and traumatized you. That they made things worse instead of better and caused you further harm.

That they made you doubt yourself, hate yourself, want to harm yourself. That you took all your feelings and released them in an angry burst of anguish against yourself.

I am sorry no one has ever listened to you or been patient with you. I am sorry you had to defend yourself and be your own sense of protection. I am sorry you taste the salty tears on a regular basis.

I am sorry the world is so cruel and that you can't count on anyone. I am sorry you are alone and feel insignificant.
I am sorry for the emotional chaos and unsteadiness.
I am sorry there have been so many casualties. I am sorry there is so much wreckage in your past.

I am sorry for the lack of hugs, kisses and any positive physical contact. I am sorry the arms that were supposed to hug you, harmed you. I am sorry if you feel your potential is wasted or feel incapable of love.

I am sorry you were not cherished.
I am sorry you are not appreciated.
I am sorry you feel pain and loneliness.

You are not alone.
I am sorry if you feel like your own worst enemy.
I am sorry people turned their backs on you and I am sorry you feel like your very soul is breaking.

I am sorry he broke your heart, that she used you and that they bullied you.
I am so very sorry.
You are not alone.
I. Am. Sorry.

I know what I have to say can never take the place of what you need or want. I know that I am just some goofy, sappy girl on the internet but I feel very strongly that sometimes just reading and digesting, even from a stranger can give you a modicum of peace.

Hugs to you all.
Love to you all.
Put that bat down.... you have beaten yourself up enough already.

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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 01:48 PM
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I'm thinking this was the wrong section to put this. Mods, can you move it to a more appropriate section?

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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 04:50 PM
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Survivors of abuse subforum maybe? Maybe not. People might get triggered.

I know it’s a hypothetical thread and you are not referring to anybody in particular but maybe some people might take it kind of personal or kind of feel like victims upon reading it. Maybe people who suffered what you described took fate into their own hands and stand up strong now and don’t want anyone to feel sorry for them. They maybe long forgave their abusers or just found ways to move on and manage their lives. They might not want a reminder. We can’t possibly know what total strangers need or want unless they let us know or we at least know them well

I think if you want to move it somewhere else you have to report your own thread. Mods might not read it

I apologize if I am completely off base here. Just some thoughts
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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 07:54 PM
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What a beautiful prose poem, Sarah! That’s how I interpreted your very moving, heart felt piece. Thank you for writing this! You have so much heart. So much compassion for others. Thank you for sharing this with the world!
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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 09:23 PM
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Survivors of abuse subforum maybe? Maybe not. People might get triggered.

I apologize if I am completely off base here. Just some thoughts
It's a creative writing piece. It's not intentionally directed at any specific person, so I think it's wrong to accuse sarahsweets of triggering abuse victims.

That's like calling the Footprints poem triggering. I understand what your intention was, but really, art is art and is open to interpretation.

I think what sarahsweets wrote is a beautiful, inspirational prose poem and is in no way triggering abuse victims.

It's a shame you see it as a negative thing, divine. I see it as a beautiful piece of writing that is full of positivity, inspiration, kindness, and reflection.
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Default Aug 07, 2019 at 10:53 PM
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That's beautiful, Sarah. Thank for that validation. I think it's acceptable in the coping forum or in the creative forum. I sort of liked it here because I wouldn't have seen it otherwise and I do think it was kind of an encouragement intended post. Regardless, very beautiful sentiment and thank you for sharing.

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Default Aug 08, 2019 at 07:06 AM
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I agree. You could repost it yourself in the creative writing forum here too, sarahsweets. It's a great prose poem that offers readers hope and encouragement. It's not triggering in the least and anyone who interprets your poem that way, well, that's their interpretation. It's like with any creative work of art: the interpretation is left up to the person reading the creative prose, looking at the painting, watching the film, etc. Look at writers like horror writer Stephen King. I LOVE his stories. Some others may not. Does that mean King should stop sharing his work with the world? No! It doesn't!

Thank you sarah for sharing this genuinely beautiful prose poem here on PC. It's obviously written from the heart!
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Default Aug 08, 2019 at 10:30 PM
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I know it’s a hypothetical thread and you are not referring to anybody in particular but maybe some people might take it kind of personal or kind of feel like victims upon reading it.
Why would someone feel victimized by reading this?
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Maybe people who suffered what you described took fate into their own hands and stand up strong now and don’t want anyone to feel sorry for them.
Saying I am sorry is not the same as feeling sorry for someone because IME feeling sorry for someone is a feeling you have because you do not know what someone went through. Saying Im sorry is my way of saying I get it. My "Im sorry" is my way of expressing compassion and empathy and trying to convey that whatever their issues are, I understand and that they deserve an apology.
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They maybe long forgave their abusers or just found ways to move on and manage their lives.
If thats the case then this thread does not apply to them.
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They might not want a reminder. We can’t possibly know what total strangers need or want unless they let us know or we at least know them well
I do not see how what I wrote has become a painful reminder of past trauma. Should I have posted a trigger warning?
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I apologize if I am completely off base here. Just some thoughts
Honestly I was taken aback by your post. I think you and I get along and share similar views on things. I know I value what you share, especially if its obvious that you mean it from your heart.

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Default Aug 09, 2019 at 03:04 AM
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Well, I can only speak for myself, of course, but I LOVE this Poem by sarahsweets and I can certainly say that it cheered me up a bit! So, for what it's worth, your thread helped at least one person, @sarahsweets, and I'm sure I'm not the only one! So thank you, sarah! You're the best! Sending many safe, warm hugs to You, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones!
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Default Aug 15, 2019 at 01:28 PM
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I think strangers are the best....most people who I emotionally rely on, are those who I have never met, more than likely will never meet, and for me, that truly is the best way. Thanks hon x
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Default Aug 15, 2019 at 02:39 PM
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Honestly, I really loved this poem. As I was reading it I thought of clicking it off, but couldn't because I couldn't wait for the next line, you've really impressed me thank you!!
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