Why don't I feel angry anymore or as much as I used to after a period of embitterment

Phil Griffin · Aug 13, 2019 at 11:50 AM

I have been an angry man for a few years and now in the last couple of months, my rage has decreased a bit that the burning passion in my anger has expired. I still feel resentful and bitter on what happened to me that caused me to be angry during those few years. But I just don't feel furious as much as I used to.

Did the passion for my anger burn out or something else is the reason why I just don't feel wrathful compared to earlier this year?

Junerain · Aug 13, 2019 at 12:07 PM

What has changed? Is this a good thing?

MickeyCheeky · Aug 13, 2019 at 12:28 PM

Did anything in particular happen these past few months, @Phil Griffin? Perhaps you're just experiencing burnout! I am DEEPLY SORRY for what you're going through!

How are your other emotions going? Do you have problem showing them or not? If this concerns you I'd suggest to see a doctor. I would say that not feeling furious is not necessarely a bad thing but perhaps there's something else that's bothering you that's worth exploring. What do you think? Either way, whatever you decide to you, we'll be here for you to listen to you and to support you. THAT'S A PROMISE!

Please feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need it, and also WELCOME to this WONDERFUL Forum!

I hope you'll enjoy your stay here. Either way, we're here. I'm sure PLENTY of people will gladly help you and like I've said you can always contact me as well. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @Phil Griffin, and ALL Of Your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF!

Skeezyks · Aug 13, 2019 at 01:05 PM

Hello Phil Griffin: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

You asked what might have caused the anger you felt for a few years to decrease over the past couple of months. I don't know as I have the answer you're looking for especially since you didn't mention what it was you were furious about to begin with. Yes, perhaps it is simply a matter of your anger having burned itself out over time. It is true, I believe, that time heals wounds. It doesn't necessarily take them away entirely at least based on my own experience. But lessens the sting. Or perhaps there are some good things that have been happening in your life & these good things have begun to outweigh the anger you carried for so long? I don't really know. These are just a couple of ideas that occur to me.

Here's a link to an article by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D., from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of anger. The article provides links to a number of additional articles on the subject:

Anger Management | Psych Central

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

Aug 13, 2019 at 01:10 PM

You seem distraught over this, but I fail to see how it's a bad thing.

Anger may be a decent motivator, but it's an emotion that tends to overwhelm people and causes them to act carelessly. More often than not, it's a weakness that makes you easy to manipulate. In poker, they call it "on tilt," referring to a state of mind in which the player becomes so angered or frustrated that they begin to make reckless and stupid decisions. It's a common strategy to goad people until they get on tilt because it turns them into an easy target.

Phil Griffin · Aug 13, 2019 at 08:17 PM

Hello Skeezyks I am sorry for not mentioning what made me angry in the first place, let's just say it was a very stressful and humiliating experience. It was when I started college and the people in my school ostracized me and picked on me for no reason. It was a small school of no more but 500 people and I tried cutting toxic people out of my life, but I just felt alone in that school with pretty much everyone shunning me and yelling at me whenever I said something.

I felt resentful for a long time from that.

sarahsweets · Aug 14, 2019 at 02:26 AM

Did anything happen to put the situation you were angry over to bed, so to speak?

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